Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 45: Marriage and it's Environs
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Tips To a Successful Marriage
A successful marriage is a couple that has passed through the test of time, surmounted hurdles together as a team and are still determined to face the future together despite the challenges. A formidable pair that has navigated life's ups and downs, and their bonds have grown stronger with each triumph and tribulation.
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The best advice on how to use a product or service is from its manufacturers or service provider. right!
Will it not just be fair to use the same logic when looking for the key to a successful marriage?
If you are of the belief that marriage was instituted by a higher power, then look to him for guidance and direction.
Only the creator knows what his product was intended to be used for and can provide a reliable manual and customer care services alongside product update/upgrade.
The Bible for Christianity
| Scripture | Content |
|---|---|
| Colossians 3:18-21 | wifes subject to husband as head, husband love your wife, children obay your parents |
| Ephesians 5:22-33 | Husband is the head, must love his wife and wife must respect her husband |
| 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 | the definition of love expected among couples |
The Quran (Islam):
| Scripture |
|---|
| Surah An-Nisa (Chapter 4), Verse 19-21 |
| the woman's right, no mistreatmen of women, don't rub them |
The Vedas (Hinduism):
Rigveda, Atharvaveda
Rigveda 10.85.46: "Let husband and wife be united, and may their love be strong."
Atharvaveda 2.36.1-2: "Let us be united, my husband and I, like the earth and the sky. Let us be united, my husband and I, like the two wheels of a chariot."
The main points are here listed below:
- Love and respect each other
- Be faithful and loyal
- Communicate effectively
- Forgive and forget
- Support each other's growth
- Build a strong foundation of trust and commitment
Though these texts are religious teachings, they also offer practical wisdom and guidance for building up a strong and fulfilling marriage.
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Improved communication in a marriage can be a real game changer for the better. And the who'll process will start with becoming good at listening to what the other person has to say. Don't just listen, let your spouse know that you are listening. You can do so by summarising to make sure you got the point. Avoid being buried in your phone when your spouse is talking.
Avoid assuming you know what your spouse is having in mind when they have not said it. Instead, try to have the speak their mind.
Do not use innuendo when communicating your intentions or simply speaking into the air hoping that your mate will get the message.
Effective communication is a skill that needs practice, patience and commitment to master. With effective communication in a marriage, half of the problems are already sold.
Trust is the foundation for having a sense of security and stability in a marriage, allowing partners to feel at rest. It is a component that is built over time by constant act of honesty and loyalty but can easily get damaged by a single thoughtless act. Once trust is damaged, it is even harder to rebuild it. So protect the trust you have.
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Trust makes sure the energy of a marriage is not sapped by suspension. Which can also kill the joy that comes from being trusted.
The couples energy is concentrated on the growth and developmentof the relationship.
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You can not totally avoid conflicts in your marriage so make it your resolve as a couple, that you will endeavour to tackle the problem and not your spouse, address the issue as fast as possible, not allowing issues to pile up into problems.
Find the right time, place and atmosphere to resolve conflicts. Listen when your spouse is speaking and do not snipe at some selected points.
Do not assume motives. Be ready to forgive and move on with your spouse, leaving the issue behind.
The point is not to try avoiding all conflicts, but to make sure you resolve them in a way that they become a stepping stone for a stronger relationship.
...With distance and time between a couple, the can gradually become emotionally separated, creating an emotional disconnection between them.
A difference in background can result in cultural norms that clash, their expectation may be too different across the cultural gap between them. None verbal communication may be interpreted differently thus resulting in misunderstanding.
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I agree with you @kesybliss that the best advice on how to use a product or service is from its manufacturer or service provider. Therefore marriage can only be successful when God is involved since he instituted marriage. I wish you good luck
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This is impressive! I believed if husband and wife can have effective communication, there won't be any challenge in marriage but because of lack of effective communication, it has made so many marriages to have serious injury that can't be forgotten.
Thanks I really learnt new things from your post.
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You have given expression to this topic. Trust and communication is a vital tools for every successful marriage. This would determine how long the love would last.
Best of luck my friend.
Your opinion to this topic is backed up with scriptural guides from the holy bible, Quran in Islam, and the Vedas in Hinduism. All of them is believed to support peaceful coexistence between partners in marriage. We hope that the discussions on this topic, will go a long way to provide us with the needed information on what we need to know and our marriages.
It's true that marriage was instituted by God. But man failed at first and lost all what God gave him.
However, that is why God now say he who funded a wife finds a good thing. This mean God removed his hand from giving wives to men.
It's true that non verbal communication can be misinterpreted which would result to conflict in marriage but when there is understand, love and trust for each other, you will find the possible way out without sharing your ugly stories with those outside.
I love the fact you provided us with biblical back up on how marriage should work, and this is how it should go, most importantly above all is prayer.