Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 53: Parental Enforcement of Decisions on Children

Do you think it is okay for parents to influence the decisions of their children?

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The role of parents is one of the most vital and important job on earth, that if done wrongly will lay a huge negative impact on the offsprings.
From childhood down through puberty and adulthood the role of parents never end.
However, there is a balance and limit to things which out parents ought to understand.

It will get to a certain stage in life when decisions should be left to be made by the children, the parents however influences the decision by giving in advices or showing support.

During the time of marriage or when deciding a course to study in school, what is the place of parents in giving their children guidance?

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For example in the area of marriage, education or important matters, it is however necessary to figure out what the child wants.
It is true that every parent want what is good for their children, infact the best, but sometimes what is their best is not the child's best.

In this case, the parents should switch roles of parents to friends.
To go into the mind of their children to find out what they truly want. This does not mean that they are being sidelined but it shows how deeply they care for their children.

Another thing to put in mind is that it's the children that would live the life and not them. In school or in marriage, they won't be there physically all the time. Hence the need to find out what the child is passionate about and guide them.

However, there are chances of failure if the children choose what they want against their parents wish, but what is success if there is no failure. Sometimes, seeing where the child is going might not really turn out good and telling the child will not make him or her change plans, it's good to allow them face the Strom.

Can a parent actually misguide their children in decision making?

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Further more, a parent can be wrong. As times are changing, most of our parents refuses to adapt to the changes which influence their decisions on the child.

Decisions are not a one sided thing.
It needs careful consideration of some factors.
What the parent think is a wise decision can end up being a very bad one.

So yes a parent can actually misguide their children in decision making.
Each parent wants what is best for their children, but in that best is passion, focus and discipline in following a cause .

Do you have any experience of your parents enforcing decisions for you against your will or experience of someone you know?

A True Life Story

Experience like some say is the best teacher.
However, you don't have to experience one to be wise.
A story most profound is one that happened to my cousin sister in the course of marriage.
She was a beautiful girl from a humble background.

All the desires of the parent was for her to get married early and give birth on time, not considering what she wants and is passionate for.
Aspiring to be a renowned professional in the area of arts. She could draw and make beautiful images from scratch to a beautiful edifice
Due to the fact that the parents wanted what they taught best for her, she heeded to the pressure, got married and gave birth to children. But at the long run, the chips were down and there was no known finance to keep them going as the said husband has lost his.

Without the experience she would have gotten as a professional she suffered low self esteem, unable to contribute anything to the household and eventually becoming as good as useless to her children.
Had it been the parents were wise enough to influence her decision towards achieving her goals before marriage or even in marriage, reverse would have been the case.

In the cause of this story, the aim is not to reproduce but to be fulfilled in life.
Fulfillment brings forth peace and ability to withstand trials when faced with one.
If the parents had thought it wise to consult my cousin on what she really wanted then she wouldn't have felt disappointed in herself and in life in general.

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