Courtship: How should it be.
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My name is @jovita30
Firstly, I would want us to understand what courtship is.
Courtship is an old practice, where the bride to to be spends time with the groom to be for some time to develop some kind of bound before they eventually get married.
in the Igbo (eastern part of Nigeria) tradition, it is a seven days period after the groom to be and family has made their intentions known to the bride to be and her family.
it is a period between when a couple decides to get married and when the eventually do.
The above definition of courtship can not be applicable to what we have now.
it has been taken from it's original meaning.
In the old you can not Court a girl or a guy without marring him or her. courtship is considered as a serious business on like now, when it is done just for the fun of it.
The present day courtship can be for as long as ten years or even more. some eventually gets married and others don't, leaving them heart broken and disoriented.
this present day courtship has done more harm than good. the rate of divorce is getting higher by the day unlike what we had during the old school day as it is popularly called.
HOW LONG SHOULD COURTSHIP LAST
The length of this courtship is so determined by tradition for those operating from the traditional standpoint. and for the new generation practice of courtship, it should not be more than a year.
the length of Courtship does not determine the success of a marriage.
A successful marriage is determined by a lot of factors and definitely long courtship is not part of it, I can tell you that for free.
Sex in courtship
Sex in courtship has become the order of the day. people go into courtship just to check their sexual comparability, forgetting that sex alone can not determine a good marriage.
I am strongly against sex in courtship.
sex is an act and can be learnt and perfected if both couples are willing.
If other boxes(love, trust, patience, kindness, selflessness, etc) are ticked then trust me the sex would be good. how can you have a good sex with a man or woman who is not affectionate towards you?.
My advice to those in courtship. Don't allow your self to be a victim to the corruption in our society. hold the right moral and be yourself. the right person would definitely come and do right by you. you don't need to compromise.
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Courtship is like embarking on a adventure with someone you're interested in just to deepening your understanding of each other, discovering if there's a genuine connection, and investing time in building something truly meaningful.
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I wish everyone in courtship can take to your advise… things will go peacefully for them at the end
Best wishes
Thank you so much for your best wishes. I really hope our generation can get it right, so the rate of divorce will reduce.