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A big thumbs up to the organizers of this contest. This is one of those special topics with a lot of controversies and widely varying opinions. Let me dive right in.

What do you understand by this statement, "for better for worse," in the marriage institution ?

It means that marriage will not always be easy and sweet. There will be great times and there will be trying times, there will be times when you would desperately want to give up and leave the marriage, but one is meant to remain in the marriage no matter what the situation is.

That statement further means that we should be ready to weather the storms that could come in marriage. These bad times are certain to come just as good times are certain. Staying despite all of these, is what matters.

Do I support the statement during wedding ceremonies? My reasons

I do not support the statement. Yes, people are meant to do their best to stay in marriages. But if the marriage gets to the point where someone's mental health or physical wellbeing or even life is threatened, the person should leave that marriage.

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This should not be something that is debatable. Life and wellbeing comes first.
People are in horrible marriages, living in torment everyday, enduring what cannot be endured. They suffer both physical and emotional domestic abuse, they live in total regret, they live in fear and bondage. This is not how it is supposed to be. Marriage should not be like a prison.

Many persons choose to stay in these horrible marriages due to religious reasons, because of the kids they have with their spouse, or even what people and family members will say. They fail to realize that if they die in the name of staying in the marriage for better or worse, people will forget them in time.

Do you have personal experience suffering from a situation of this kind, or have you heard of it from others?

I do not have any personal experience but I do have a story. There was a lady I knew. She was in a very toxic marriage. Her husband was very abusive in every sense. It all started with verbal abuses. She endured it for as long as she could. Next, physical abuse came in. What started as a one time thing, became a frequent occurrence. Her husband was fond of hitting and beating her at the slightest opportunity.

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There were those who advised her to leave the marriage and there were those who told her to stay, mostly because of her children. She chose to stay. She thought she could fight for marriage and make it work again. She was willing to endure all the suffering. One faithful day, her husband got angry and hit her with a wooden stick on her head. She collapsed and died instantly.

Now, all people can do is mourn her. Some may have even forgotten her. Her kids are now motherless. If only she had left when she was supposed to, she would still be alive.

If you were to change or encourage/refashion this statement "for better for worse," what would be your options that could reasonably solve the issue, aiming at having peaceful families in general?

If I were to change the statement, I will change it to this: "For better for bad".
With such a statement, people will have in mind that marriage isn't necessarily for ever and they should quit they start facing life threatening situations.

It will remind people that marriage is not a bed of roses. Hard, tough times are going to come, but they should stick to their partner. There will temptations to cheat, their partner could have a serious health challenge, there could be financial difficulties. They should stay strong and remain steadfast. However if the marriage gets abusive, that is a signal to end it.

Conclusion

The statement "for better for worse" has done good, but it has equally done harm. Marriage is beautiful and amazing, but it shouldn't end your life.

Special appreciation to @josepha

I am inviting @sirstan9, @ugochukwuprosper, and @dayographixto participate in this contest.