ENGAGEMENT, HOW SHOULD IT BE
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WHAT IS ENGAGEMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP?
The above sentence carries two heavy words that mean a lot to every man and woman as far as life is concerned. Engagement is simply a process called "agreement" between a man and a woman who are pronounced to be joined together in a soon time as a husband and wife. While a relationship is any form of togetherness or it can also be seen as the connectivity between two or more persons and it is mostly a connection between a man and a woman. Therefore, engagement in relationships is a point where a man and a woman agree to be joined together if time permits.
AT WHAT AGE SHOULD A GUY OR LADY BE ENGAGED?
This is very argumentative because my suggesting year for a guy or a lady to be engaged might be a disagreement with the other. For a guy or a lady to be engaged, I advise that such a lady or a guy should be mature enough to be able to take care of a wife even if things goes bad, and for this reason, a lady should be engaged from the age of 25-above while for the guys, I am as well advising that the best age range is from 38-above.
WHAT ARE THE THINGS YOU CONSIDER IN A PERSON BEFORE ENGAGING OR ACCEPTING ENGAGEMENT?
Yes friends, for a lady or a guy who should go into a relationship, I would advise that so many things and factors should be considered so that the husband and wife would be safe in the marriage. A lot of people have gotten their marriage wrongly because they were not able to fetch out the thing to be considered and some of the things to be considered are;
- Purpose/aim of the relationship
- Understanding rate
- Humility rate
- Decency rate
HOW LONG IS RIGHT FOR ENGAGEMENT BEFORE MARRIAGE?
In my part of the world Nigeria, immediately after engagement, it is assumed that the wedding preparation should get started between the two persons. It is a time when the two persons would become closer than ever therefore, how long an engagement before marriage should last is, months to one year.
ARE THERE THINGS THAT CAN CHANGE SOMEONE'S MIND AFTER ENGAGEMENT?
Yes of course. I have mentioned earlier that, engagement is a period of acquaintance between two persons, courtship is the intimate moment between the man and the woman who have been engaged, and at this moment, the lady would know more about the guy and the guy would also know more about the lady.
In this period so many things might be fishing between the two of them, and that is the importance of engagement. During the courtship, things like constant misunderstanding, fights, quarrels, parents not being interested etc can make either of them change their minds. Which would lead to the end of the engagement.
IS ENGAGEMENT A GUARANTEE FOR MARRIAGE?
Not at all. Engagement is never a guarantee for marriage in the sense that, any of them can find out something strange from their partner and decides to let it go so it is not bad to call off the engagement. Some parents might not like the union and I would always advise that once parents are against marriage, it is better to call it off because it is never a guarantee.
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He has a very clear concept of what a couple's commitment implies, which I also share.
There is no age for love, no one can stop feeling it, however I agree with you that the woman or the man must have enough maturity to assume such an important commitment.
Before committing the couple must know the positive and negative side of the character and thinking of the other. That will put into perspective the things they will have to admire or tolerate about the other. No soldier dies in a war forewarned.
The duration of a commitment should not be very short, minimum one year, because it is necessary to let the relationship flow and to point out what I said before. This period will allow you to decide with greater certainty whether to go ahead or abandon ship. Ha Ha
The commitment is not a guarantee of anything, for the above mentioned, things can change before reaching marriage, each head is a world and not all worlds are compatible or complement each other harmoniously.
Good post my friend, I wish you much success and blessings.