Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 53: Parental Enforcement of Decisions on Children

My parents forced me to go and study law in school, and now I am totally lost because this was not my plan
As good parents, we should always listen to the opinion of our children because they know what's best for them, forcing our children to make decisions against their will can destroy them forever.
I am very happy to come from a home where I take decisions on my own about myself, and my parents always motivate me to keep pushing hard.

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No, it is definitely wrong for parents to influence the decisions of their children because they are not the ones that will face the challenges that with it.
You know as a child when you take decisions on your own and you start to face difficulties you will know how to continue because you made the decision for by yourself, but if it was your parents or someone that influence you into taking that decisions you will always blame them and you might end up quitting why because it wasn't your intention at the first place.

In some circumstances, parents have the right to influence the decisions of their children when they discover that their decision may end up harming them.

But overall it is advisable for children to take decisions by themselves so that if it turns out good they will be happy for themselves and if it eventually turns out bad they will know how to cope with it, without putting blame on anyone.
As a child when taking a decision for yourself always let your parents know aboutnit so that you all will be on the same page, incase anything goes wrong you will be able to fix it together as a family.

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Parents always do it, especially when it comes to marriage, because this is a lifetime commitment, so you have to be careful before going into matrimony with your supposed partner.
Your parents, especially your mother, will want you to marry someone who will take good care of you more than the way her husband does.

We are Africa and Nigeria for that matter and we know that in terms of marriage our parents have some say in it because they are the ones that will bless our traditional marriage.

Your parents will want your supposed spouse to come and spend some time with them so that they can examine her character and give you feedback wether to proceed or not, as a man you can't get married to a woman that will disrespect your parents right ?
So when it come to marriage a good parents always advise their children to get married to the one their heart beat for and won't stay in any of their children's way when they find their better half.

Im team of course of study in school I believe a child have the right to choose any course that he us capable of studying in school, because if your parents choose a course for you to study you might end up failing that couser because it was never your wish.
A child will only choose a course that his or her brain can carry.

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Yes, bad parents always give their children advice that will ruin their future and make them useless in life.
I have seen many children who were mislead by their parents into making harmful decisions that is affecting them today and when they see me they will say that of they have know they wouldn't have listened to the advise of their parents.

As a child whenever you see that your parents are giving you advice that will destroy your life, do not accept it, always disagree with them.

Many children you see out there who are bad influence to the society, for instance prostitute, armed robbers some of them listen to the advice of their wicked parents thst is why they are where there are today.
I say this because I have seen many children whose future has been destroyed because they listened to the wrong decisions of their parents.

My parents have never for one day forced me to make any decision in life, and that is why I call them my heroes.

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Unfortunately, not all parents are thesame, one of my very closed friends was forced by his parents to go and join the military against his own will.
He never for one day had the desire of joining the Nigerian Army, but his parents forced him and even threatened to disown him if he didn't join the Army.

He was very frustrated and complained bitterly to me but then I had nothing to offer because his parents gave him an option to choose, that it's either he joins the or the will disowned him.
He has done a choice than to join the army against his won will, 2 year later, he was shot dead during insurgency, and his parents regretted their decision till date.

This is to teach all parents a lesson that no matter when we should never force our children into making any decision.

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