Steem4Nigeria Accelerator Contest Week4- Transparency in Marriage.

Good day everyone in this noble community, I hope your day is wonderful. It's a pleasure to write my entry in this contest organized by #steem4nigeria. I will like to invite the following friends of mine to participate, @oasiskp, @gwillchrist and @vudeme123.

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Briefly explain Transparency in a laymans understanding .

Transparency means being open minded,honest and trustworthy. It means having no hidden secret in you that will make you to have a regret at last or be shameful of yourself not be opened. Transparency involved in so many areas such as marriage, relationship, business, Ministry and many more. When ones you are not transparent, you will definitely be a topic for others. Transparent is a good humor every human should put on because, it comes with dignity, trust, honor and respect.

What is your opinion on been transparent in marriage or relationship.

Being transparent in marriage or relationship means you can be trusted by your partner, you're always truthful,not secretive and can be relied on. By this the bond of love and togetherness can not be easily broken. Every people finding himself/herself in any relationship or marriage should have in mind about transparency which has do with not holding anything back against your partner, everything going on with you and everyone around you has to be known.so transparency grooms trust and well earned love, that is why you see in leadership, if a leader is open that is being transparent, the citizens or persons under the leader would have to trust and love him or her cause if money is being contributed for any need in the society or wherever, the leader makes himself accountable for it he shows it to the people everything they need to know. Transparency is mostly required and expected from anyone who has to be trusted or given any position to be held.
Transparency is a value, an instrinsic value.

In the case whereby one party finds out the other persons hidden secret what do you think should be done?

I think he/she should confront the person first, get to know if there's any reason why the other person decided to keep it a secret instead of jumping into conclusion.
Very well it bitter just try to understand and look out for concrete explanations and settle it with him or her amicable. By so doing both of you can build a stronger bond of friendship more than before, knowing fully well that there must be dispute for peace to reign.

Have you experience any intransparancy in your life what did you do.

Yes, have experience intransparency when I was single in a relationship that matched to marriage, but along the way as the marriage preparation was ongoing, I came to know by my partner friend that my husband to be has already impregnated another lady and the lady is crying and curses him. I approach him and he didn't deny it, so I had to look for a way to know the lady in question, called for a meetup between three of us, I said my mind by telling him that am not interested again in the marriage that he should take the lady that carry his blood and married. He beg me for forgiveness, I forgive him, congratulate the lady and the lady was so surprised to see that kind of boldness from me. She thank me and we all celebrate with a grateful heart. Although it wasn't easy but I had to move forward and take a bold step for the future. And today am glad they are happily married and my relationship with them is still intact. Secret cannot be hidden!

Can truth be hidden forever ?

Never, truth cannot be hidden forever. Truth is like some one putting slices of onions in a hot oil, or boiling bean no matter how you cover the pot, the smell will find it way out for the neighborhood to know what is going on in the environment. It doesn't matter the years it will last, one day, it will show up.

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