The Green spotlight #5: “The five love languages’’

Hello friends!

It’s another exciting moment on the green spotlight. Good to have you here.

If you are new here, the green spotlight is a weekly review on inspiring books. Over here we believe that readers are leaders.

We believe that when we read, we receive insight that are like green light which in turn could lead to success if diligently applied.

For the past four editions we have been dealing with finances and money issues. Today we are having a little twist on the review and we want to delve into the matters of the heart.

Unto the review of the week

Ohhh am excited. I love love. Today we are going to be dealing with matters of the heart, love and relationship. Am sure the butterflies in your stomach are already tingling. Mine have been jumping to the thought.

So on our review today is a must read book on love and marriage titled “The five love languages”. Does that ring a bell?

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Author : Gary Chapman
Year published: 1992
Number of chapters: 14
Number of pages: 237
Published by : Northfield Publishing

My opinion about the book “The five love languages’’

Introduction/Theme

Have you ever wondered what happens to love after marriage? Before a man and woman gets married, they are all over themselves and they can’t wait to be joined in holy matrimony as husband and wife.

They start out as little love birds but along the road, things turn sour. The love disappears or tends to disappear and the butterflies in the bellies seizes flying.

This book tends to explain what happens to love after marriage and how the couple can keep love alive in the marriage for years even when the butterflies aren’t flying again.

Key points from the chapters

The focus of the book is that married couples should know that love is beyond feelings and you can show commitment to your partner when you understand what he called the five love language.

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The love language is simply how everyone expresses love to others which is invariably how they want love to be expressed to them. If you know your partners primary love language or languages, then you will be able to keep the spark of love awake in your marriage.

Let’s look at these five love languages, shall we?

• Words of affirmation: This is simply acknowledging the little things your partner does for you through complimenting kind words. Telling your partner beautiful words and expressing your feelings towards them in an affirmative way.

A lot of partners spend their time criticizing and talk down on their partner and finding fault with every little thing they do and hence the marriage keeps nose diving and this really gets tougher when the other partners love language is words of affirmation. A little word of kindness and love can make a whole lot of difference.

The author goes ahead to buttress this point with different stories of different couples. I think you should check this out.

• Quality time: A lot of people believe you love them when you spend enough time with them doing what they love. If you do every other thing for them and don’t get to spend quality with them, they will still say you don’t love them. Why? Because they interpret love as quality time. It’s that simply.

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• Receiving gifts: And here is when I ask who is calling me name. This is my second live language. My primary love language is words of affirmation followed by this.

Please if you love me, say it but don’t stop there. Buy me gifts. Not just any type of gift. Find out the type of things I like and buy them for me. That’s when I will know you love me. Life is not hard at all.

• Acts of service: The people who have this as their love language feels loved when you help them do little things around the house or personally for them. They interpret those acts of services you do for them as love.

Things like helping them with the chores, cooking, washing, a little massage or helping them with any of their personal things they need help with. Hmmm. Interesting. I feel this will work for most women even though there are some men who have this as their love language too.

• Physical touch: The last but not the least is physical touch and most men have this as their primary love language. Hmmmm. It’s well. So no matter what you do for them, and the touch hasn’t entered, the love is not talking yet.

It isn’t necessarily sex but other types of affectionate touch. If you want to know more, pick up the book and read.

My rating of the book

This book is a banger for me. I feel that if only husbands and wives will simply understand the nitty grittes of love and commitment explained in this book, we would have few divorces and more working marriages.

I give this book 9.5/10. It’s actually exceptional and I think you should read it ASAP.

Conclusion

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Have you been wondering what could possibly be your own love language? What if I tell you there’s a how to know, would you read this book?

Well dig in already because inside are some questions when you answer them and score it, would enable you know your own love language. What are you waiting for?

Thank you for coming down this lane with me again. Your suggestions on how to improve the green spotlight welcomed and if you have a book you would want me to review, please bring it on.

If you missed our last edition, you can read it up here, Edition 4.

I ask my friends @ruthjoe, @ninapenda, @jovita30, @amjadali00, @perpetaul to drop their opinion on this edition of the green spotlight. See you on the next edition and if you have discovered your own love language, be free to share with us too. Love after all is a beautiful thing.