@NGOENYI CONTEST SERIES #1:CHILD BEARING CONTEST by @ wilosmith

Let's start by answering each of the sub-heading one after the other:

•IS CHILD BEARING A CHOICE THAT COUPLES MAKE OR IS IT BY LOT OR BOTH? WHY?
It is no doubt that child bearing is a thing of joy in most homes even the bible(for those christian believers) says "go into the world be fruitful and multiply(Gen 1:28)" but it doesn't say women must give birth for her spouse by all means or force.
When a woman goes into labour she undergoes alot of pain before putting to bed or bringing her child into the world coupled with the fact that she would have to carry that child for 9months. Sometimes there might be some complications during labour which might lead to death of the mother or both the mother and the child. Due to some of this complications during child birth most women tends to be scared of taking in(becoming pregnant) .
Women who have the phobia for child birth needs to seat down with their husbands or man to discuss about the situation and come to a decision weather the woman should get pregnant or not same also goes to the men or husbands .
There are men or husbands who won't like their women or wives to bear kids due to financial issues or any other reason like losing their women or wives to the hands of death inside the labour room e.t.c. After considering these two factors from both parties am of the opinion that child bearing should be only by choice and not by Lot inorder words both parties need to come together and decide.

•WHEN SHOULD THIS QUESTION BE CONSIDERED? BEFORE OR AFTER MARRIAGE?
In my opinion the question above should be considered before marriage.
Marriage is a union of a man and a woman as husband and wive. Marriage has alot of spritual,physical,psychological meaning attached to it. So before the two parties ties the knot they both have to consider the topic of discussion which is child bearing inorder to avoid marital issues like divorce , heart break or fighting e.t.c

•WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO COUPLES WHO INTEND TO MAKE THE DECISION TO BEAR A CHILD OR CHILDREN?
My advice to couples who intend to make the decision to bear a child or children is that they should both try to respect each other decision towards child bearing or bringing a child into these world. I will also advice them to love and stick to eachother not withstanding the outcome of their choices.

IN CONCLUSION
A child is a beautiful being to behold but it is one thing to give birth to a child and it's another thing to give that child the love and care he/she deserves. So please before bearing a child you have to be prepared financial,psychologically and others. Make your choice wisely.Thanks and God as you do so