Steemit Engagement Challenge (SEC) WK14:#1: Neglect in families, effects on kids

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Hi there..

I won't fail to extend my congratulations once more to this community for been a part of this seasons Engagement Challenge.

This first week begins with an interesting topic that has troubled many families. Neglect in families, effects on kids

What does neglect of responsibilities mean in a family?

Before anyone can properly dissect this topic, there are terms that needs to be made clear. Example of such term is the word responsibility.

Responsibility is certain things required of a person to handle, such as house chores, bills payment, taking care of the home, children and spouse and it goes further to providing for the home and giving protection.

While neglect simply means to ignore, not to pay attention, or not to meet up. The word neglect is most times used in a negative sense.

Now neglect of responsibilities in family simply means to ignore, turn deaf ears of not to meet up with the duties in a family. Such duties include provision of love, care, attention, direction. Neglect can also been seen in the area of house chores, bills payment.

In a home neglect is often seen amongst parents. Sometimes that may get to busy that they tend to ignore some basic needs of their children like loving and caring. Children naturally craves for attention but when parents neglect is seen in such family, those children may grow up without experiencing the true meaning of love and even be so unkept.

Have you been neglected or seen anyone neglected? What are the effects on the kids

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Oh I have not been neglected but I have seen some kids been neglected. Let me tell you a short story.

After my secondary school I travelled for the first time to the city of Lagos for holidays. I went to my uncle's house. My uncle is a lawyer, infact a senior advocate of Nigeria (San), he is married to a banker. Both my uncle and his wife are hardworking, they want a good life for their family.

My uncle leaves the house from Mondays to Saturdays as early as 6:30am to work while his wife leaves the house as early as 5:30am. At that time they had two children. The youngest child was just given birth to when I visited. She was barely 3months old. My uncle's wife resumed work when her baby was three months.

I had the responsibility of taking care of their children, I and the nanny. These kids only see their parents on Sundays. And Sundays are like resting days for their parents so they really don't have time with their kids. Soon I noticed that the little baby preferred that I carry her than either the father or mum because once the mum or Dad carries her, she begins to cry as if they are strangers. But I come and carry her, she stops crying. That's strange right?

There several effects of parents neglect on kids. Some kids turn out to become the problems of the society. Some become grow up to hate their parents, some kids become dirty because no one taught them how to care for their bodies.

Some kids become hardened with strange mindsets and others are exposed to hard labour while some are quickly exposed to wolves that comes to take advantage of them.

Some kids also grow up having to learn things the hard way, undue growth, taking responsibilities for themselves at an early age.

Your advice to parents who neglect their responsibilities towards their kids

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My advice to parents who neglect their responsibilities towards their kids would be to tell them that neglecting their kids for whatsoever reason they may have is not really worth it because at the end it is disaster.

In my neighborhood while growing up a parent neglected their only son and when he grew up, one day, he beat up his mum. Am not justifying the act of that boy but I would blame his parents. He wasn't properly trained so he sees nothing wrong with beating up his parents.

Parents please if you don't want your kids to become a problem in the society, then do not neglect them. I know it can be hard but try your best to always fit into your children's program. Be there for them, you brought them into this world.

Your advice to the kids who are neglected

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My advice to kids who are neglected would be this..

Your parents love you genuinely, they want the best for you that's why the work hard so don't take it so hard on them when you feel they don't give you the required attention

Be patience with your parents, learn to communicate with your parents your worries even if you think they won't give you attention

Don't be mislead by anyone out there, when someone gives you an advice out side your home, talk it out with your parents to see if it's ok to go on with the advice or not so that wolves don't take advantage of you

Be the best that you can be, you have so much potential, start developing it through hard work

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