SEC-S11W2-My life as a parent and kid - My joys and sadness

I am glad to be here in the second week of "SEC-S11W2-My life as a parent or kid and joys and sadness" with my experiences as a kid and parent both. I feel that I have equal weight on both sides of the scale therefore I am posting them in my own style.

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I have a lot to say but since you have bound me in questions, I will answer them as per your questions.

“My parents loved us but I wasn’t always sure they liked us.” –Tahereh Maf

As a parent or a kid, tell us about a period when you had lasting joy

I think when children love someone, they love them unconditionally. Children are too innocent to hide their feelings, so they show their joy and sorrow without any intention. Their innocent and pure love can bring immense joy, but at the same time, children have a natural sense of playfulness that can be contagious.

I believe our ability to find joy in our activities as children helps us appreciate the little things in our lives and rediscover the joy of play. The laughter and smiles of parents are their genuine expressions, which can instantly uplift your spirits and brighten up your day. The laughter and smiles of parents are the sources of happiness for children, and they get very excited by them.

Mother and father support can be incredibly beneficial to children's learning and development. Milestones for them can be a reason to fill with pride and joy.

Children have their own ideas and feelings, which can bring new ideas and insights to their preconceived notions and help them to see things from a different angle, which makes them personally happy.

I have a reason for writing this. Because I always felt that my parents were forcing their own desires on me. My goals were different from my father's goals, which he saw for me. He wanted me to see myself as an engineer, and my aim was not to become an engineer at all.

I believe that mothers and fathers who are filled with a sense of pride and accomplishment from celebrating their children's achievements or seeing the success that they had a hand in shaping can be pleasurable to them, but that child What about the one who has other intentions for himself?

So I have to say that you represent the future and continuation of the child's life, and you have to contribute to shaping the next generation. Your intention is good, but its results can often be counterproductive.

What have you done to ensure that this joy continues in your life and in the life of those around you?

I did what I wanted to do but with a difference. I studied what and how my father wanted me to study, but I never stopped playing my favorite games. That gave me inner satisfaction. Alright, I did not become a sportsman, but I am happy I played at a higher level.

And then to satisfy my parents, I became what they wanted me to become but maybe a little different from what I would be if I had lived my life the way I wanted to live. I became a little too "fault-finding type" or you can put me in the category of a "perfectionist."

As a parent or a kid, tell us about a period when you had sadness.

A child, protected by loving parents but under strict discipline and habitually doing whatever is required of him, develops an "entitlement mentality" and always puts himself first.

I was not unaware of my parent's efforts. But I was not even ready for their super efforts for me. When I started to work as a corporate manager, I believed that everyone should listen to me. Maybe I should have a little more of a human viewpoint. I should have known about the suffering of my subordinates. Because they were not to blame for everything that was going on.

These types of people may achieve good results or be successful for a while, but ultimately, they will not feel a sense of accomplishment or satisfaction. So maybe that's what I am—a perfectionist. I cannot tolerate even the slightest flaw.

"I would ask my parents if they were still in this world, "Did you love me as a child or destroy me?"

What have you done to ensure that this period of sadness doesn't show up again in your life?

What I went through in my life is never going to happen again because I have already well passed those phases, but I made sure that it doesn't repeat in my child's life. I have a daughter and make sure that things happen in a well-collaborated manner.

I always ask her willingness and choices which makes her happy but being a human the chances of mistakes are always there so I listen to her carefully so that I do not repeat the mistake my father did with me. I hope she never feels disappointed with any of my actions and reaches her own set goals with her own efforts

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