Hello Steemians, happy easter to you all. I love this contest topic 'forgiveness' because this affects us all, directly or indirectly. So I'm here to talk about how forgiveness unites the family. Forgiveness to means the act of letting go of all the hurts one caused you, it is a deliberate effort of letting go of bad feelings and thoughts about someone who wronged you, and reconciliating with the person either physically or in the heart. Forgiveness is mentioned in the Bible over and over again. The act of forgiveness is not done unconsciously but consciously. The truth is, as long as we are in this world, we will hurt one another and to thrive forward, we need to forgive each other. Unforgiveness shortens lifespan but forgiveness makes the heart lighter and one look younger.
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UNFORGIVESS
Unforgiveness is the opposite of forgiveness. It has bad effects on the family and the society as a whole. Unforgiveness brings about hatred and disunity in the family. It leads to death. It is one of the reasons we have broken homes which leads to rape, violence, stealing etc. Now, let's look at this scenario: A husband and wife wrong each other and each waits for the other to make peace, but non makes the effort. They start keeping malice at home and the husband starts keeping late night and eating out. The wife doesn't care and the children are suffering because of this. Then the man impregnates a lady outside during this period, and the wife gets to find out, she makes trouble and seeks for divorce which is granted her. The children face the effect of a broken home. They start displaying negative attitude which wasn't there before like bullying others in school, hanging with bad friends, etc. All these would have been prevented with forgiveness, and the family would have been in unity.
Let's look at another scenario. A pastor who is an examplary figure is happily married with a daughter. Unfortunately, the daughter gets pregnant as a single, and he is angry and ashamed. He throws the daughter out of the house despite his wife's pleading. The daughter goes ahead to do an abortion but unfortunately, she dies in the process. It is unforgiveness that led to her death. The wife is angry with the husband because of this and leaves the home. So the marriage or family is broken through unforgiveness. Unforgiveness blinds and hurts the bearer more than the person who hurt the other. It's like carrying coal to one's bosom, it burns. Unforgiveness makes us live in the past while the future passes us by.
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Unforgiveness blinds to reasoning
MY EXPERIENCE IN RELATION TO FORGIVENESS
I have been wronged at different times and I have also wronged others. it had been difficult to forgive so I had to make a deliberate effort and I also pray to God to help me because I couldn't do it on my own. I can still remember a very close family member accusing me falsely when I was a teenager, I can remember crying and explaining that I was innocent but I wasn't believed tho the truth was later on revealed but I was broken. I thought I would never forgive but I got wiser and forgave even tho I have not forgotten. I can also remember a close friend I took like my sister hurting me badly, I thought I would never get over it, but over the years, I have forgiven tho that friendship was over. I realized that forgiveness makes me radiant, it gives me peace of mind and with forgiveness, I don't have to watch over my back. My burden is made lighter through forgiveness.
Forgiveness lightens my burden
FORGIVENESS UNITES FAMILY
Without forgiveness, the family is scattered. Forgiveness is so important that the Bible admonishes us to practice it. We are told to forgive seventy times seven in a day and the truth is, no one will hurt another so much in a day. Just as we wrong God and He forgives us, we are asked to forgive others. How does forgiveness unite families? As children, we have hurt our parents in one way or the other over the years but they forgave us and still catered for us and the family stayed together, they didn't throw us out because we wronged them. Also, forgiveness leads to peace abd stability in the family. Most of the broken homes we see today are from unforgiveness, and the children from these homes end up being a menace to the society. Forgiveness, apart from uniting the family leads to good health and long life. When you forgive, you have peace of mind and you are happy. When unforgiveness is lacking in the family, diverse views and decisions are taken because everyone is competing with each other and this makes the family fall apart. There is no faster way to destroy a family than with quarrels and fights which the children will grow up to see and inherit. It is said that people should not throw away the baby water with the water, so we shouldn't throw away valuable relationship with our relatives because of unforgivess. Finally, it is said that a family that prays together stays together. Normally, it's a family that forgives that prays together which leads to staying together and the result is unity in the family.
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couples that forgive live long and united.
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Your piece beautifully underscores forgiveness as essential for family unity and personal peace. Through personal stories and insightful scenarios, you have highlight the profound impacts of forgiveness and unforgiveness. It's a compelling reminder of forgiveness's power to heal and bring families closer, emphasizing its role in fostering harmony and wellbeing. It was really an amazing read
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You are right that not being able to forgive weakens a person. It has a very bad effect on both society and family. It creates hatred in the family. Therefore, forgiveness is an important step to strengthen the family and move forward.
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Not forgiving people has a lot of consequences to human being such as death. Death might comes because of the pains and heavy burden inside our heart, the death might also comes from someone who has offended us and it is common in most places. When we forgive people for their resentment against us, we declare peace, we do good to ourselves and the person we forgive, that brings about unity in the community, family and in a relationship. Best of luck dear.
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Hi friend
You've written well, is true that unforgiveness will imprison you in your past, it will produce bitterness and also give Satan an open door.
So is good to forgive and at the same time be wise like a serpent.
Forgiveness birth peace,joy and stability.
Good luck
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