I believe there is an escape. I don't believe we cling to abusive people but we are raised with the idea to be loyal to family.
I don't see it that way and never did.

Many years have past and I never regretted I left. I still do not see family as the most close people to me. Perhaps I am harsh or is it I am not blind? I do not favour family above those who are to me and that will never happen.
I am also not that mother who will do everythimg for her child no matter what they did.

I don't believe we pick the partner or friends which are a copy of a parent. What does might happen is that we do not change the environment we live in. On the other hand it will be hard to recognize someone who truly cares next to the fact a partfears being alone while others have to to be able to breathe.

It takes time to be yourself or find back the person you once were. Own ideals, wishes, dreams.

Life is a personal journey to experience and became richer. A victim you can only be if you feel that way.

I never saw myself as a victim, the idiot being fooled and lied to yes, but not a victim. Not even as a child.