Overcoming the difficult

Human beings are emotional, we tend to be guided more by what we feel than by what we think, which sometimes helps us and sometimes does not.

Emotions are part of our daily life: to suffer, to love, to be happy or sad, everything seems to be part of a language necessary to manage them, so that they make sense in our life. It is like flavors, there is a great variety, some we like and others we don't, we can choose which ones to keep, but they are there, even some we don't like, like those of medicines, they are very bitter, but in the right dose, they relieve us.

There are people who suffer too much because of what they feel, as someone who has experienced one or more heartbreaks, so they decide not to fall in love again, avoiding exposing themselves to situations that make them feel vulnerable and close to any possibility of letting out what they have inside. They usually make believe that nothing that happens matters to them, but it is a way to protect themselves from pain, when even pain can be useful, as it challenges us to overcome it and make us stronger. Hiding does not help us, although I fully understand those who take that position.

In the end, emotional and social distancing only generates a cold loneliness that is more difficult than the pain generated by any failure, because we are individuals who need interaction with others and the experiences that arise from that interaction, it is like food for the soul, a way to grow.

I believe that not feeling can be useful at times, as to relieve the pain to the heart, trying to forget what hurts you, distracting you in other things, until you find some serenity that helps you think clearly, which does not mean staying behind a shield, waiting for nothing to happen to you.

Life is beautiful with all its colors, flavors and emotions; what is not pleasant makes you value what is pleasant and try to keep it, although there are people who prefer to punish themselves, but that is another matter. I believe that the most difficult traumas to overcome come from childhood, because that is when we are most vulnerable and that is when we are learning our model of affectivity, the way we establish affective bonds with others. That is why it is so important to pay attention to our children.

On the other hand, relationships also leave their mark on us, creating in many cases predisposed behaviors to specific events, which in theory should not be, since each person deserves a clean opportunity, without having to pay for the mistakes of others; although I know that it can be difficult to trust again after a betrayal, for example, no matter who it comes from.

What is certain is that we must learn to accept whatever happens to us, integrate it into our personal experience, learn what that situation had to teach us, in order to avoid reliving it and then go on with our lives and try to be happy. Whatever it is, it will always be better to overcome it than to hide.

Thanks to God for every moment of life
and to you for joining me in this reading.

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