"Beware of Bullying"
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Hello Friends
"Bullying is a learned behavior. It's up to us to teach our children how to be kind and respectful to others." Caroline Kennedy...
During your life, have you ever received bullying? If so, in what form? physical, verbal or through cyber bullying. Provide your review? |
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The first bullying I ever received in my life was in physical form. School days happen to be when we see and experience all sorts of physical bullying from the senior students who feel they are lords over the juniors.
I attended a female school where everyone boarded in hostels. We have our timetable for all activities, and everyone must be up and doing at all times. In my school, the students believe that the junior students must have a school mother from the senior students, one who can fight or vouch for them whenever they are bullied.
Well, for me, I didn't believe I needed a school mother to be protected, so I refused all the offers that came my way. Being unaware of a senior who had been targeting me, she came to me one break time, asking me to go buy some items she listed on a piece of paper with a small amount of money.
The total of all the items on the list was #500, which is approximately 1.4 steem; meanwhile, she gave me #250, which is 0.9 steem. I looked at the amount that was given to me and the total on the list, and it was not the same. I asked her to complete the money, but she told me that if I returned without everything on the list, I would receive some strokes of cane.
I went to my classroom to think about what to do, but I only decided to buy the ones I could and return them without the rest. When she saw me coming, she asked me to start running from there to meet her. She checked the items and noticed something was missing, and she asked me to kneel and receive some strokes of cane.
I didn't know what I did that made her pick me out to bully me that way. Since it was a boarding school, I couldn't report to my parents. Even other days, this senior student would bring all her empty buckets and ask me to fill them up with water before I went for afternoon prep.
This action gave me an unending fear of senior students. Physical bullying could lead to depression and anxiety.
How do you equip your children to avoid bullying either at school or in their social environment. |
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Bullying is not just found in schools, it is everywhere; in offices, social media, churches etc. We hear stories or see victims everyday and it's more common with children in the boarding house. To equip my children to avoid bullying;
🔹Let them get educated about bullying:
This should be the first step because I can't teach them on how to prevent bullying when they are not aware of bullying. Once they know what bullying implies, they can be able to identify it when they notice it around.
🔹 Open up conversation with children:
The more we talk to the children about bullying, the more they become open to tell us when they face such act or notice such act. We can always ask them how their day in school went. Ask some sensible questions, like how they feel?
🔹Build your child's confidence:
This where the word of God comes in for me. Let the children know that no one can bully them no matter what. Build them to stand their ground with confidence. They can join some activities that they enjoy doing to help their confidence.
🔹Be part of their daily activities:
Get to know the different platforms your children use online and educate them more on how it works. Let them know the dangers in online and offline activities. Teach them how to treat and respect others.
Give your opinion on how to overcome bullying in form of physical, verbal or through cyber bullying |
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How to overcome bullying in form of physical;
🔹Ignore the bully:
Walking away most times could save a whole lot. I have discovered that bullies, love reactions. They try to push you until they get back your reactions, so the best thing would be to walk away at instant.
🔹Talk to a trusted friend or adult:
There are some adults who knows how to deal with a bully without them finding out the source. Keeping quiet could lead to death. I have witnessed a bully case where a young girl was bullied by fellow girls but because she refused to speak out on time, they attacked her the second time and that led to her death.
🔹Don't get physical:
Device other ways to retaliate than fighting back, it could be dangerous.
I invite @mariami @nancy0 @wakeupkitty
I am bulliefld from the day I was born. By my mother, family, siblings. Primary school wasn't what I would call heaven on earth but way better than at home.
I had a nasty teacher in the 1st and 2nd grade and the headmaster was scaring. Being hit by teachers normal. At school were very strict, old fadhioned rules but I do have good memories at that time (mainly trips and the christmas celebrations, the hot chocolate, story told and the book each student received).
High school was better but I had some teacher who were real bullies and discriminated.
I've been never hunted like my daughter or been beaten up, ignored at primary school and made a fool of and never been liked but to be honest back then was a different time. For sure most children feared my parents.
I don't agree that a bully should be ignored. A bully should be corrected! If not it only gets worse. It's important to set boundries.
We had a tv program called: The school reunion.
In one episode an adult woman was still crying, broke about what three bullies had done to her and those bullies? Three ugly women denying everything, the said they could not remember anything. Of course they lied.
The teacher was present and said he remembered it very well. I asked myself: if you remember it after all those years why didn't you act?
I learned that teachers overhere rather close their eyes and pretend as if everything is fine. If the child is bullied it should leave school instead of complaining.
Do not let a bully control your life, it's up to you what you make out of it, how to live it.
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Wow! So sorry about your past. Ignoring a bully does not mean you are weak, or incompetent or you want this bully to go ahead to bully others, no. Ignoring here means you can walk away in the midst of bullying and then act from behind because acting at that moment might get out of hand.
Of course bullies should not be ignored to avoid the next person being a victim. It was such a bad experience you had in the past, but I'm glad you have been able to get over it and you would teach the little one how to handle bully or avoid bully.
I appreciate your comment ma'am, thank you!
It's hard to walk away if the bully or bullies sit on you or beat you up with sticks and stones, are chading you on your way home and so one.
I can list plenty of cruelties where there's no way to ignore, walk out.
Children are committing suivide because of these bullies..
Many books are written about this subject but schools, offices, society is not able to put it a halt.
A children's book called "Spijt" (regret) is hartbreaking also for the only friend this bullied young boy had who committed suicide. They made a film of this book.
I will never understand why parents, teachers do not recognize their child in need. I do not believe in regret in this case. The average person, bully lives on and forgets the young boy they bullied died because of them. He could no longer ignore it and this was the only way he could walk out. How sad is that. Billions of people but no one reaches out.
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Well, this case is hard. The bully came with all force and that led to death. In may case, I had the chance to walk away, but I didn't. Maybe I was too naive to understand what was happening to me. All bully case differs, a lot of young people die at first instant.
I know a boy who attends a boarding school, he was bullied and when he returned home he was unable to speak to anyone even when he was asked what the problem was. He fell ill after some weeks and was rushed to the hospital, on the sick bed he opened up to the parents saying that some seniors in his school forcefully raped him and gave him some injections and eventually he died.
Bully comes in various forms and when we face the little ones, we could walk away or escape it but with the violence ones, it is hard to walkway or escape. 😘
It would help if topics like these are in the open.
I understand it's not easy to speak out but as a parent you should know your child. A teacher should too. Children spent at least 8 hours a day at school.
An abused child changes, there are plenty of signs that should let an alarm go off.
I asked my child daily after school: how was your day? The answer was: fine.
Till the answer was: fine I even had a good time.
That was a huge sign to me! I am sure all those teachers still remember me teaching them a lesson.
My biggest fear is that today's small bully is tomorrow's rapist and serial killer. Bullying is not just joking around. ☹️
Hola amiga es lamentable saber que en los colegios existen este tipo de personas que suelen abusar de los demas y sobre todo de hacerlos sentir con miedo a todo y en estos casos muchos no hablan por miedo a ser golpeados.
Es fundamental hablar con nuestros hijos del tema que sepan a lo que se pueden enfrentar y sobre todo que hacer, tener confianza para que no se queden en silencio si reciben algun tipo de abuso.
Saludos 🇻🇪👍
Yes. Our children needs to be aware before hand. They need to fully informed and raise an alert at the sight of such act. Bully is applicable in most boarding schools in my country.
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To varying degrees, everyone has experienced bullying. Bullying can cause deep wounds, and in some cases the victim even commits suicide.
So, bullying must be a common enemy, just like racism and various acts of violence. Peaceful greetings from Indonesia.
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Hola amiga
Es lamentable como hay personas que tienen en su mente solamente maldad.
Hacer que otro se quite la vida no es de seres humanos, si no de personas incomprensibles.
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Hi dear I am very sorry you had to go through such a thing at a very young age. It was more than bad and I can only imagine the emotional and psychological trauma you went through due to such incidents. I wish you had reported the matter to the school but as a boarder myself I know if you report a senior student all the seniors will now face you. I wish you the best in the contest.