Beware of Bullying"
INTRODUCTION
Bullying is a serious problem that affects millions of children and adolescents around the world. Bullying can be physical, verbal, or emotional, and can have lasting consequences for both the victim and the bully. It is important to train our children well. It is important to teach our children the importance of being kind to one another. It is important to teach our children that bullying other children affects their mental and emotional health and as such might lead to depression.
I have received bully both physical and cyberbullying. But one thing I keep saying is that they should thank God my parents brought me up so well. My parents brought me up to be patient, to be tolerant, and to let go. And people asked me questions like how was I able to overcome all of this that was happening and it came to a point in my life where I became depressed because why is my case always different? Sometimes things people pass through and forget about, and l will have to go through different trolls to over them.
It all started in secondary school when I was yet to become a senior prefect because I was so brilliant, I was given the class monitress to take charge of the class activities, write names of noise makes and vanacola(any language other than English). One day I wrote the names of some guys who were (then boys) on the list of noise makers and they were flogged and they paid a fee for that. And when the teacher left, they told me they would deal with me after school. I became scared because I was just a little girl, how would I face 5boys to fight? I couldn't even wait till the closing hour, I had to go home to avoid problems.
The second one was cyberbullying. I'm a very popular person on social media, especially Facebook. One day something happened to me that got me into depression, people who knew me from home and heard what happened brought it to the internet and were trolling me, insulting me, and saying so many bad things about me. I was so sad, that I had to leave social media for a long time. The most hurting part was that I didn't reply to any of the trolls and at some point I stood my ground, I blocked every one of them and had my space clean for my sanity.
An eye for an eye. I'm going to teach my children to be defensive. Self-defense. If anyone slaps my child I'm going to teach my child to slap them back. If you use a bad word on my child, I will ask her to report to her teacher. There are words I don't ever want to hear my child say. I will also teach my child to be able to understand and recognize bullies. I will teach my children to stand up for themselves. I will teach them to ways talk to me when they are ben bullied because some children may not be able to explain or understand what they are doing to them as a child.
I will help them develop a network of friendships and supportive adults both in school and at home. I will encourage them to participate in activities such as sports, and church activities and be able to mingle with other children in the neighborhood. It has been proven that an introverted child is more open to bullying than an extroverted child. With all this, they are already equipped to take care of the bully.
cyberbullying
Since everyone is behind the keyboard typing insults and trolling, you are going to also act like they don't exist. You don't reply to their posts that are saying anything about you. For your sanity, I would advise you to block them so you don't see their post and they don't see yours too. As one person who has undergone cyberbullying I that silence was the best answer and after a few months of silence, some came to ask for my forgiveness for cyberbullying.
Physical bullying
Like I said above, an eye for an eye. You pinch me I pinch you. I won't even wait to report to anyone because they might not handle it the way I would want. Before the report gets to anyone we might have beaten ourselves blue and black😂 so if you are planning to bully me physically then be ready to collect wototo(slang) because I don't forgive physical bullying.
verbal
I don't like to insult and as such if you bully me verbally I'm going to just look at you like a fôôl who doesn't know anything, so is just an illiterate. Because I can't imagine myself being someone bullying me with pidgin English or language. The only way I can reply to a verbal bully is when you are bullying me with a queen's English. Anything outside that I won't reply to you. Silence will be your answer.
In conclusion
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Hi @blessingogah-1
Your two bullying cases are really interesting to study, since physical bullying and cyberbullying, in one way or another, affect us emotionally and mentally.
The physical harassment that you experienced at school demonstrates the aggressiveness of your classmates, which you avoided by taking refuge at your parents' house. The most aggressive children always seek to intimidate the calmer ones.
Cyberbullying led you to be more cautious with friends who visit you at home and then post things on social media that they shouldn't and that damage anyone's reputation, like your case.
Very smart of you to have to delete all those people who hurt you from your Facebook.
God bless your life and your family more. Success in the challenge.
Thank you so much for readying and analyzing.
Your comment was interesting to read.
Go ahead friend. Greater blessings for your life. Good day.
Dear @blessingogah-1,,,,
Your parents taught you to be very strong from your childhood for which I would like to thank them. During your school days you were writing names of 5 naughty boys which resulted in punishment. Those boys threatened you and you had to return home before the last hour.
I want to applaud you for teaching defense to your children. But I want to discourage teaching slap for slap and scolding for scolding. If you teach your children like this, it may be life threatening. Instead of being rude to bad boys, treat them well and walk away. I will consider it wise.
Those who bully us on cyber should be locked up and not connected with them. It is better not to go to questionable places where we may be disrespected.
Thank you for reading and leaving some advise and comment on my post. I look forward to working with it smh and see the effect.
You are welcome.
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Hello friend
Its Interesting how you shared that you were bullied back then in high school you were so smart and was almost given the role as head girl, but you got the class monitress, you were threatened by boys who you wrote down their names and made them pay fees due to nuisance, you got scared but the virtues your parents taught you remained with you that's to be tolerant. You also got cyber bullied and after a little depression you got in your feet and blocked all the wicked predators. I enjoyed your entry and success in the challenge my dear friend
Thank you for reading. My parent did a great job for and i will in turn teach my children thesame way.
Es lamentable que hayas sido víctima del bullying, sin duda causa daños psicológicos y destruye la autoestima. Son momentos que te marcan y no se olvidan, porque para un niño es una situación terrible.
Educar a nuestro hijos es primordial sobre todo para enfrentar esta situación, reforzando su autoestima, la confianza en sus padres y maestros. Tu experiencia seguro les ayudará mucho a entender muchas situaciones que cuando niños no sabíamos por la inocencia misma de la época.
Hoy día hay que tomar la delantera y establecer con nuestro hijos una comunicación abierta de amor y confianza para que puedan expresarnos sus preocupaciones o enterarnos por ellos mismo de lo que sucede en su entorno escolar.
Gracias por compartir tus experiencias y enseñanzas.
Saludos y éxitos en tu camino.
Most victims of bullying will usually experience trauma and prolonged mental stress. For this reason, there needs to be positive actions to prevent these negative actions.
Success for the contest.. 👌
Thank you
Bullying is a social misfit habit that has been underestimated over the years. Bullying or public embarrassment/harassment is something no one has ever prayed for. But, it just happened spontaneously. This type of lifestyle is bad and need to be stopped. Good luck on your post.