ecoTrain Question Of The Week 16: My Entry, My Thoughts
What is Intimacy to Me
Intimacy is closeness between people in personal relationships. Intimacy doesn’t really connote sexual relationship rather it seeks to emphasis the level of close or proximity between two people. A little stretching into another language would help us understand better what we mean when we talk about intimacy.
In the Greek, the word Intimacy is interpreted as “οικειότητα” meaning familiarity, intimacy, habitude, intimateness. Now in all the meanings added to this word, that which interest me the most is habitude which is a habitual tendency or way of behaving.
Children don’t learn certain habit of the parent, they naturally by default live out some habits found in their parent because of their continuous stay with their parent. Now I want us to look at another Greek word which speak volumes on the major component of intimacy “Koinonia”.
Koinonia is a transliterated form of the Greek word κοινωνία, which refers to concepts such as communion or fellowship, joint participation, the share which one has in anything, a gift jointly contributed, a collection, and a contribution. It signify the reality of the postulation of fellowship and unity that should exist within the Christian church and our union with Christ Jesus Himself as the head of the church.
The derivative of the word communion is from the Latin word communion which means to share thing in common, from this little analogy, we can deduce that only people who are intimately related can share things in common. It’s what builds over time as you connect with someone, grow to care about each other, and feel more and more comfortable during your time together. It can include physical or emotional closeness, or even a mix of the two.
Intimacy seeks to make us become like what or who we are communing with in character, stature and in nature.
Intimacy means being in partnership with who you are communing with to be an extension of him/her in the world.
Our intimacy with who we are communing with brings us to the place of oneness with the person that is to say that by consistent intimacy overtime, people should not be able to quickly differentiate our individuality but should rather see two persons as one.
Intimate people are clone people. Beyond the reality of producing seeds through intimacy, people also are made to become alike in reason, in action and in responsiveness to situation.
Intimacy unveils the true state of your heart in the light of the person who commune with. Until you are around the presence of whom you are having intimacy with, you truly do not know the true stay of your heart toward that person. Every intimacy is supposed to put us under a spot light that searches our innermost being to uncover to us the true state of our minds as regarding who we have a relation with.
Our intimacy with a supreme being is what make people attracted to us because of the deposit of the personality of the being in us.
**Do We Need Intimacy to Be Happy? **
Well off course we need intimacy to be happy because it is that which connects with our creation. A few reasons.
We are expected to represent we how source of existence is coming from and from my above postulations on this subject, you will notice one profound thing I keep saying from the beginning and that is communion which is one of the component of intimacy. No what is communion or fellowship intimate fellowship or rapport: COMMUNICATION. the more we communicate with our creators at our intimate times, the more he tells us his will and the more we do his will the more we become more like him emissary are made in the place of intimacy.
Intimacy causes in inward change that brings physical manifestations or realities.
Intimacy establishes a strong bond between us and our creator and in turn energizes us to stay in unity with others.
The thread that binds creation together is relationship. Now one very profoundest ideology about relationship is that it must be intimate in order to sustain it credibility.
How do you fulfill your intimacy needs… Especially during COVID19?
From my afore explanation of the concept of intimacy, I would like to outline a few measure to how we achieve intimacy.
Realities remains that intimacy is no just about emotions that leads to a sexual entanglement, It is more of communion or fellowship and friendship.
Constant uninterrupted communication. Any form of intimacy will always begin by a communication. Although there are many forms of intimacy, and some are which exist in a non-verbal ways, this kind that happens in a non-verbal way soon dies. Communication serves as a bridge between two persons who are ready close by. As so it is important that if you must fulfill our intimate needs whether with people or with a deity, we must strongly appreciate the importance of communication or conversation. Every effective conversation must always have a feedback.
Commitment: in a bit to achieve intimacy, we must take a posture that allows us to show a sense of commitment to whoever we are relating with. It is not intimacy when people are not committed to the need of their partners. The general concept behind commitment I think is giving. We have a sense of intimacy when we give to our partners either our resources, time, energy or even knowledge. Creations show us the extents to how committed nature is in the affairs of humanity. Recent discoveries in the medical sector clearly points out that major of the pharmaceutical products that are of great health benefits in the world comes from nature.
Faithfulness: I would prefer to stay off any intimate affairs.
