Narcissist - The (Almost ) Invisible Trauma They Cause
During our (people living right now's) time on this planet, one of the largest problems is Narcissists (and other Cluster B personality issues).
Narcissists are people who have had their empathy center of their brains burnt out. Usually by being born to a narcissist parent, or in the case of the elite, are specifically tortured to cause a schism in their minds, to get a child who has no warm empathy, who basically has a split personality.
At this point i must state that this is not about narcissistic behavior.
Narcissism is not a scale, where you are less to more narcissistic until you are fully narcissist.
If you have someone who is being an ass, being manipulative, but they still have warm empathy, there is a limit to how far they will go. A narcissist has no line. No limit. They will get in that last dig ON YOUR DEATH BED. They do not consider you human. You are a television in their life. And if you will not perform for them, then you get tossed to the curb like a broken TV.
We really need to drop the term "narcissistic", because it has us intermingling assholes with serial killers. They are not the same, they cannot be treated the same, and if you don't know the difference, you will be in for a world of hurt.
Your Mother Does Not Love You
(it can be father, but i am using mother here because we EXPECT mothers to love their children)
As a son/daughter of a narcissistic mother, you think that mother loves you. You will do anything to get your mother's love. You will even become psychic so that you know how to act, know when to sing and dance, or know when to be sombre. It is your life that is on the line, so you better never mess up.
Never mess up. What an awful thing to do to a child. And the child, being a the center of the world that they are, believes it is THEIR fault that they messed up. So, you grow up never knowing a stress free life. You do not even know what it is like to relax. Your body makes drugs that puts Oxycodone to shame. So, you become numb to many emotions, numb to certain physical pains, and are always hypervigilante.
Further, your mother will gaslight you. (telling a lie with a straight face) Making you doubt your reality. (either i am crazy, or mother is crazy. Gaslighting is crazy-making) So, you will constantly have trouble in your life because you LITERALLY do not know which way is up.
Your mother will triangulate you. She will tell you one thing, and your sibling another. And play you off each other. A narcissist does this all the time. So, you not only doubt your reality, other people are upset at you for a reality you never did. Can you imagine your father belting you severely for nothing. Genuinely, really, nothing. The narcissistic mother made it up, or inflated what you did, and so now you are being punished, and you do not know why.
Worst, your mother does not love you. Even after years of counselling, you may never know, never fully grasp that your mother doesn't love you, and is in fact, out to destroy your life. Seriously, out to destroy your life. The narcissist has no self, so they are trying to suck all of your self out of you. (This often leads to the child becoming a narcissist too)
If you have a narcissist parent, you have to leave and go non-contact.
It is best to program into your mind that they are trying to kill you, and every moment on the phone with them is them planting a bomb in your brain.
A fully trained psychologist, who is normal, or has done a lot of healing, can work with your mother, but you never will be able to. Even after much healing work, you still have all the pathways formed for you to be manipulated by mother. You may get to the point where you notice her manipulating you, but can't do anything about it.
Wherever Narcissists Go, They Cause Injury
Narcissists can't help it. Their minds are wired a certain way. They constantly NEED power and control. Many narcissists can't stop lying. Even if telling the truth would be of benefit to them.
The biggest buzz for a narcissist is termed "duper's delight". This is when they pull one over on you. They got you, sucker, and they are giddy for it.
Take these into account. Does the narcissist just exist as another person in the office, that has their own demons to deal with? Or, are they super destructive. Causing huge amounts of pain and suffering to those around them.
Just a narcissist existing can often destroy the office environment.
And, in dating, they are terrors. The narcissist looks for prey. (not for a date, not for a companion. These things are foreign concepts to their brain.) They find their prey, and then love-bomb them, making their target feel on top of the world. That they finally found the love they have been looking for. And THEN, they pull away. Causing the prey to instinctively try harder. And this push pull continues, and gaslighting happens, and soon the person in the relationship with the narcissist acts like they are crazy. And the victim feels helpless to escape.
In a divorce proceedings, the narcissist calmly shows how crazy she is. And the courts agree. (because we do not collectively know what a narcissist is, and how the trauma effects the victim) The victim is punished greatly, and the narcissist walks out with whatever they want. (unless a miracle happens, like your child stick a phone under the door and records the narcissist talking about the things they did)
We need to learn about Narcissism!
If we do not know that there are these empathy-less robots walking around among us with human skins on, then we will never be able to defend ourselves. We get abused children that grow up and share their abuse. Crime statistic go up. Suicides go up. Or, exactly what we are seeing in our world today.
The narcissist have gotten in charge of everything. Their never ending search for power and control causes them to seek those places of power. And once there, they will do things to spite people. Pass laws, with good sounding names, that destroy people. On purpose! And when confronted will say they didn't know. Then go home and sleep like a baby.
A narcissist parent destroys their children.
A narcissist destroys their community. All of a sudden, all kinds of fights break out all over as people are triangulated. And if you do not know about narcissism or triangulation, you will never find the culprit.
Fortunately, for the people, we have the internet, and so when narcissists try to triangulate or gaslight us, we all share that info and find the person behind all the lies.
A narcissist was the king of the concrete jungle, back when there were lots of shadows to hide in. Now that information is flowing, the light is being shown on these doings. But, currently, people do not understand what is going on. They ask, is this politician an idiot or evil? And, when you ask that question, you cannot get a true answer.
The narcissist is destructive.