Steemit Engagement Challenge S10 W3| Do you believe marriages are made in heaven?
Assalam-o-Alaikum !السلام عليكم
First of all I welcome you all to my Steemit blog and hope you all are living a healthy life, my article today is about some aspects of married life, how we can live our married life happily and what are the main reasons due to which many times problems arise in married life I have tried to write on this topic and I am grateful to the Incredible India community that this community has given us this topic in Steemit Engagement Challenge S10 W3 and gave us the opportunity to write about it. This is my first SEC season 10 week entry.
Do you believe marriages are made in heaven? Share your opinion.
I am a Muslim and I will answer it according to my understanding. In life, marriage is called the foundation of a new life and when a person is born, Allah Almighty writes everything about the destiny of a person on the safe tablet which we are destined to. say A person gets what he works hard for in his life and it is also true that destiny also writes how a person's home life will be and with whom he will marry,
but all this is written on a safe tablet/book, Human couples are made in the heavens, this means that whatever happens in the life of a human being has been recorded in the book of destiny and this decision is said to be related to marriage that human relationships or couples are in the heavens. are made But man gets what he strives for.
A person's life is changed by prayer. If a person prays for the marriage of his choice with the hope of goodness, then Allah is the one who accepts all prayers. Dua makes a person's life and it will not be wrong to say that if a person wants to marry of his choice and the society becomes a wall against him, then with the help of dua and Allah all the difficulties and obstacles are removed. Or becoming a couple in Paradise means that it is Allah's decision as to when a person will get married to whom,
but Allah has given a person the power to decide that he should decide his relationship carefully. We have to consider destiny and a person's search and prayer as well as all aspects of decision-making in this matter. Man gets what he strives for in life and then sincerely hopes for God's good for it. Man's life is connected with his destiny and quest. Everything is possible with dua and destiny can be changed by dua. Thus, marriage is also a decision and is linked to the destiny of a person.
Which marriage do you prefer, arranged or love? Why?
We should give priority in our life to that which will benefit us and cause good and goodness. Marriage is a very important matter and it is the name of establishing relationship and marriage bond does not bind two people but marriage of two people brings many families closer to each other.
Whether the marriage is arranged or love, there must be a relationship of love and respect. Because if the marriage is arranged, problems may arise in it, and if the marriage is a love marriage, problems may also arise in it. In arrange marriage, the will of the family members, parents and the likes and dislikes of the parents are also included, while in love marriage, the likes of the boy and the girl are included and the aspect of love is highlighted.
We can also make a love marriage into an arranged marriage if the consent of the parents is included and we can also change the arranged marriage into a love marriage if the boy and girl accept their parents' opinion and choice with love. I believe that both types of marriage will be successful if we treat each other with love, respect, sincerity, good intentions and honesty. If in the matter of marriage, there will be an element of malice, hatred, greed and pride in the heart of any individual, then whether the marriage is arranged or love, there will be failure in both cases.
In front of me, love marriage is also fine if respect and pure love is sincere love and arrange is also fine if the aspect of pure love and respect between all persons is included in the relationship.
According to you what is the definition of a happy married life?
Marriage is not just the name of getting married. Marriage is connected with the peace of two people and many families. If the boy and girl are not happy after marriage, then the life of many people is affected by this situation. Therefore, it is very important to have love between husband and wife after marriage.
For me, the definition of happy married life is a life or a family where there is a relationship of trust and respect between husband and wife, where both respect each other and consider each other's pain and suffering as their own pain.
Where there is no greed and selfishness, but husband and wife are partners in each other's pain and suffering in both rich and poor situations. Where there is respect in the husband and wife relationship, there is a life free from doubts, where there is compassion for each other, where relationships are given priority and not status, and I think such a married life is always called a successful and happy married life. And to me this is the definition of happy married life.
Share some reasons behind the increase in mental distance and separations.
There are many reasons for mental stress or divorce in married life, some of which are as follows. At the time of marriage, boy and girl not agreeing and forced marriage is also the biggest reason because boy and girl don't want to marry each other and family members get married because of ego and stubbornness.
Another reason for failure in marriage is the difference in status, due to which problems are born. A very big factor in the failure of the marriage is also seen in the parents of the boy or girl who give strange advice to their daughter or son and cause divorce between them ,Then not paying attention to solving them also causes mental stress and separation in each other.
The rise of love before marriage and the end of these feelings after marriage also causes separation. But poverty, wealth, domestic problems, parents not playing a positive role on both sides also cause separation and mental problems.
But the most important aspect is that husband and wife are said to be clothes of each other and when the substance of mutual respect and tolerance is not included between husband and wife, the result of such a married life is separation one day.
Today in our society which belongs to India, Bangladesh and Pakistan, the factor of divorce after marriage is visible due to the same reasons. Lack of love, lack of respect and suspicion and unforgiveness of mistakes are all factors that cause separation between married couples and we should build relationships of love, tolerance and respect and in this regard, family. Every individual and every section of society must play a role.
I will invite my steemit friends @msharif @ikwal @jyoti-thelight @adriancabrera @ripon0630 @jessica566 to participate in this contest.
Thank you all so much for taking the time to read my article.
Best wishes
yousafharoonkhan
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Hello dear, @yousafharoonkhan
i agree with you and we should marry the girl who like us, i agree with you , i am personal witness of two case in which main reason of the divorce was misunderstand so we should take care every factor of life thank you dear
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Postingan yang bagus saudara, semoga kita bisa sukses di kontes ini
terima kasih banyak atas apresiasinya, ya kita akan sukses dalam kontes, kita harus memiliki harapan terbaik
thank you very much for the appreciation, yes we will be successful in the contest, we must have the best wishes
Assalamu alaikum my dear brother you are absolutely right everything is pre decided by Allah almighty when we are born our fate is written and similarly you describe very well about the causes of separation and divorce in society definitely one of the most perfound is boy and girl are not ready for marriage and one other factor which is responsible lack of compromises both the partner are not ready to do compromise in their life that's caused the mental stress and finally divorce I wish very good luck for the contest
Waalai ku msalam my respected sister drhira
One of the tragedies of our society is that boys and girls are not given the trust that the society should give because sometimes the social attitudes and thoughts of individuals also play a role in separating two laughing homes. We should inculcate the element of self-confidence and tolerance in the boy and girl after marriage so that they develop the ability to have tolerance and trust in each other. Thank you for reading my article.
آپ نے سر بہت زبردست باتین لکھی ہیں۔ شادی میں عزت ہوگی تو یہ رشتہ قاہم رہے گا۔میں شادی شدہ تو نہیں لیکن رشتے ٹوٹتے دیکھے ہیں جن کی وجہ لڑائی ہوتی ہے
bhut thank respected ap ku mari post achi lugi hai
Well said and yes, I agree with you that a happy married life is depending on the couple and how they treat their spouse. Thankyou for the invitations, I am preparing my content and publish it shortly
thank you for encouraging words , i believe we can build every relation strong , if we have respect , respect , tolerance play important role to win the life problems and happiness of the person
Jodoh merupakan takdir. Namun manusia dapat merubah takdir itu dengan kekuatan do'a. Itulah yang saya tangkap dari tulisan @yousafharoonkhan.
Penjelasan yang menarik. Saya memperoleh pemahaman yang menentramkan. Bahwa takdir mengenai jodoh, dapat diusahakan melalui do'a. Namun harus berhati-hati akan do'a yang dimohonkan.
ya doa yang terhormat memiliki kekuatan yang besar, kita bisa mengubah nasib kita jika kita berdoa di depan allah untuk kehidupan yang lebih baik. terima kasih banyak sayang atas apresiasinya
Terima kasih kembali.✨