Steem engagement challenge-S10/W3| I do not believe marriages are made in heaven.

Greetings to all friends of the Incredible India community, and welcome to my blog as I share my entry to the week 3 engagement challenge for the prestigious season 10. It's an amazing week given the fact that the topic for discussion dwells on a topic that is trending nowadays, especially among youths.

This week's topic focus on the topic “Do you believe marriages are made in heaven”. To further explain my understanding of the topic, I will follow the guiding questions below. I hope you find pleasure in reading through.

Do you believe marriages are made in heaven? Share your opinion.

Marriage is a covenant between two individuals who decided to live together in a union despite their differences. In life, I always believe that two persons can never be the same in terms of character, behavior, etc. The reason why I said, “...despite their differences”.

Some Christians have a belief that marriages are made in heaven. They believe in praying to God to locate them to their soul mate (life partner).

To me, in reality, marriages are not made in heaven because you might be in several relationships but in reality terms, the uncertainty of who you will eventually marry is higher. People may have similarities in character, behavior, etc, but this is not to say it was ordained in heaven for the two to be compatible.

Which marriage do you prefer, arranged or love? Why?

Nowadays, it is common, especially among the working class to arrange marriages between their kids, all in the name of keeping the family name and reputation high (maintaining standards).

Notwithstanding, I will prefer marriage by love and not arranged marriage. Many arranged marriages end up in a fiasco because either one of the partners does not have affection for the other and turns to cheat on their ex-partners.

When you marry someone because you both love each other, all their imperfections are superseded with love. You see your partner's weak point as a breakthrough to perfecting each other.

Love is always at the center of every action or decision taken. In everything you do, you consider the feelings of your partner first and quickly adjust. I will prefer marriage by love all the way.

According to you what is the definition of a happy married life?

To me, happy married life means a couple living together in a union over some years, working hard to maintain happiness in their life. I know it is difficult to maintain happiness throughout marriage but as I earlier said, when there is love, it conquers everything.

Living a happy married life entails a lot of commitment, care for each other, good communication, and building trust in the relationship are what I believe will lead to a happy married life.

However, marriages always have their sweet, bitter, and sour moments. When bitter moments come, do not forget about the sweet moments, and when sour moments come, remember the sweet moments shared together.

Share some reasons behind the increase in mental distance and separations.

The following are some reasons I think contribute to separation in marriages or relationships nowadays.

• Lack of communication: Communication matters a lot in marriages and when there is a lack of good communication, it causes misunderstanding and misinterpreting actions. This has caused several couples to separate.

• Lack of Trust: When there is no trust, every action or decision taken is questionable to both partners. This creates room for destructive arguments which only destroys the union.

• Tolerance: There is an increasing level of separation in marriages nowadays due to a lack of tolerance. Couples do not tolerate negative behaviors and accept their partners for who they are. Rather, they want their partners to become who they are not.

• Time and attention: This is so common among the working class as everyone claims to be busy with work. They hardly create time and attention for the family but rather tailored their energy towards building a powerful career path for themselves. This has led to an increase in mental health distance and eventually separation.

• Lack of respect: This is very common among men, especially within societies that regard women as “men’s property”. Men in such communities empowered by traditional stereotypes make men disrespect women. This has caused some women to equally empowered themselves and fight back to regain their positions in society. This has led to several cases of divorce in my community.

In conclusion, I will say marriages are not made in heaven because people may have similarities in character and behavior but in reality, it does not mean that their union is ordained in heaven. Love, trust, good communication, and tolerance are some of the reasons for a happy marriage. I will invite @ Saxopedia, @rezvan, @mesola, and @irawandedy to share their entries to this challenge.