The only way to avoid emotional injury is to let go

It is certainly not a bad thing or even a good thing for a person to be too emotional, but you must be aware that if you are a more emotional person, then you may carry the characteristics of being easily injured. Just like a soft-hearted person will be more difficult for themselves, a kind-hearted person will live more tired, and a sincere person will be easier to suffer.

However, if you have too much feelings and hurt yourself, then you still need to reflect-if feelings are a kind of "good" and being hurt is a kind of "bad effect", then the "good" gets "Evil", of course, is also problematic.

Therefore, a truly kind person must know how to protect his own good from being used by others; a person who values ​​his feelings must also know how to protect his own feelings, and not be hurt by others because of their heavy feelings, especially by others. Regarding feelings as your weakness, keep hurting you again and again.

In the final analysis, there are only two ways to avoid feeling hurt. One is to find someone who values ​​feelings as much as you. The second way, of course, is to be indifferent to this feeling. It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. And each of us can decide, in fact, only the latter.

There is a theorem in life: the more you care about something, the easier it is to hurt it. So, when you don't care, this thing is actually powerless to you.

"Careful" is actually our fatal injury. The more you care about something, the easier it is to be caught by "care". It becomes your weakness and the most vulnerable part of yourself, just like the door in martial arts. With a touch, you can hurt yourself.

You said, I understand the truth, but if I want to let go of my feelings, I really can't do it.

So, it can only show that either you have too much tolerance, or the other party has not hurt you deeply enough. If the other party’s injury has exceeded your tolerance, if the other party’s injury has made you completely give up, making you fearful, I don’t believe there is anything you can’t let go of-it’s like holding a glass of water in your hand, 80 You may still be holding it, but after 100 degrees is boiling hot, you must let go!

In addition, the reason why you can’t do it is that you don’t work hard enough. You know that your hurt comes from your unwillingness to let go. You still can’t see through and look down on it because you don’t want to end your pain. To work hard-to endure another kind of pain.

Although you are in pain right now, you have already experienced this kind of pain, and you feel that you can adapt and bear it. And if you let go, you don't know what unknowns you will face. You are afraid that you can't bear such unknowns, so you don't want to change yourself. Just like a toothache, you want to extract your tooth, but you have accepted the pain of not extracting the tooth, but you are afraid of the pain of tooth extraction, so you will always keep this painful tooth for your life.

Taking a step back, at least you have to let go of the people who have hurt yourself, let go of the feelings that have been invested in him for so many years, and don’t care about him or the feelings between him, then it will be difficult for him to hurt him anymore. it's your turn.