should forgive him after we part

in LifeStyle3 years ago

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-anger/201409/how-do-you-forgive-even-when-it-feels-impossible-part-1?amp

Many men cheat, not to leave their family and find true love. But he did not resist temptation for a while, or wanted to go outside for refreshment.

When the fact of their displacement is discovered by their wives, they will start to regret it and start to think that they actually still have a home, a port that is always behind them and can come back at any time.

Right now, the cheating man is starting to worry, what should he do if he divorces himself? What to do with the child? How to explain to parents and relatives? I want to apologize to my wife, and I want to return to the family.

But what were you doing before?

However important it is, long-term ownership will give people the illusion, as if this thing is not that important, and will not disappear anyway.

If you really wait for the day to come, you will start to regret and try to come back, after you really lose, you will regret it again.

After a man cheats, a woman has two choices, one is firmly not tolerating, unforgiving, and firmly divorcing, the other is to forgive, let the matter pass, and move on.

Women who choose to divorce have to face the effects of divorce and all the hardships they will experience in someone's life in the future. But there is no need to see husbands who cheat every day and force themselves to accept their mistakes.

And women who choose not to divorce, even though they have kept their family and everything they have right now, they must start fixing their nearly broken marriage, and never forget the husband who betrayed her, and worried about her. whether one day in his life will come back To face the same derailment problem.

But for a woman who chooses to forgive, there is one more thing she has to deal with. Once you forgive a guy's mistakes, he will feel that the problem is over. If you bring it up often in the future, take this problem. came out to remind her, but it would give a man a kind of feeling. At first you said you were forgiving but couldn't get past it. You always feel it's embarrassing for him.

Obviously you think that you are a victim and that you are a sensible person. Tell us what happened to this problem? But some men will feel that they have apologized to you, and you have agreed to forgive, but they still do not forgive, it has been your fault.

In the end, many women who have chosen to guard their families from the derailment of men, and give them another chance, use their broad minds to tolerate men's mistakes, but in the end they lose to the aftereffects of this incident. .

Easier said than done to excuse someone's betrayal!

After choosing to forgive, what is needed is the concerted effort of two people.

Women try not to think about this problem as much as possible, and don't always bring it out to remind themselves and men. The result of this is that both people feel uncomfortable, and the man's guilt will be exhausted by repeated reminders.

A man has to make it clear that if he's wrong, he's wrong. Even if a woman talks about this problem over and over, it can't prove you're not wrong. You have to use your patience to rebuild your wife's trust to really restore this relationship.

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