it turns out that there is a kind of "helplessness", it is your background that determines the destiny of your life

On the Internet, someone asks such a question. I have studied hard for more than ten or two decades. Why can't I be a native of a big city?

However, such people are a small part of society. And most of us are just ordinary people from remote areas.

In this regard, many people think that I want to integrate into these first tier cities and become a member of them. In this way, they choose to fight, choose to study hard, to fight for the rest of their lives.

If you think so, it proves that this person is still ambitious. Since God values ​​hard work and hard working people, I am sure you will have a good harvest.

However, only by studying hard for more than ten years, or struggling for ten or twenty years, could the reality behind it change?

It cannot be denied that some people have changed their destiny. After all, these people were in the minority. As an illustration with the "law of two-eight", no more than 20% at most.

And most people, they can only choose to return to their hometown after a few years with enthusiasm, and leave the scene sadly.

For many young people, they have studied for years because they want to have a career and realize their dreams?

Therefore, in today's society, however, there are many young and middle-aged people, they prefer to suffer and go to developed places to develop themselves.

The people who might survive in these places are in the minority after all. Because of so many resources, if you don't excel, or if you get the occasional opportunity, then it's hard for you to get a foothold.

Some would say that apart from that, wouldn't there still be a person with a good family background who could stand there? It should be spelled "background".

And in this pyramid-shaped society, how many people have family backgrounds and resources? Rarely. Many of us are basically poor children.

Some people came from the countryside, and some came from third and fourth tier cities. Compared to the people in the city, they would end up being defeated.

What I'm talking about here is only for the majority of people, and not for a small number of people with a chance to excel. Because there must be very few people who can achieve stratification.

For most people, if you want to get past this level, you don't mean to struggle for 20 or 30 years.

On the Internet, there is a very realistic expression, maybe the end of your life is just the starting point of someone else.

Take for example a place to live, some young people with high ambitions want to settle in first-tier cities, hoping that their descendants can have apartments in urban areas and receive higher education.

But in reality, these young people have struggled for years, from ambitious youths to middle-aged people with white hair, and they are making this dream come true.

And some of the people around you? They may have been registered in the city when they were born.

In this world, it's possible that people's efforts are nothing more than results that others don't get.

We all know that all roads lead to Rome. As long as people have confidence and abilities, they can realize their own worth and head for success from different paths.

However, some people will not be able to reach Rome in their lifetime, and some will be in Rome as soon as they are born. This is the sorrow of a helpless world.

When everyone in this society emphasizes the elite, then ordinary people who are not elite can only be shadowed, no matter how high their academic qualifications are.

When everyone in this era emphasizes extraordinary talent, ordinary elites don't even have the qualifications to stand on the sidelines.

Because among these people, there are those who have not found opportunities, some who have no background, and some who do not have the capital. So, how can it be compared to others?

As people have struggled for years, they will gradually understand that what they stand for is nothing more than what other people can have at will.

I once saw a middle-aged man in his 40s who sat on the street and started crying. The reason was simple, after working for years at an internet company, he was laid off on orders.

This fired middle-aged man couldn't find a job. Because he is old, and most companies only recruit people under 40 years old.

This way, he could only choose to leave the city and return to the countryside.

He was very emotional, without background, without youth, he could only be an outcast in this world. Even when other people left him, he didn't say a word.

Are people like that still rare? In fact, this is not uncommon. Perhaps, there are many people around us, and they are one of them.

Sometimes, a gap in the background cannot be created by one generation.

Take the question at the start, why is it that a person who has studied hard for more than ten or twenty years still can't match the natives of the city?

The very simple truth is that other people's foundations and other people's foundations cannot simply be shaken by an ordinary person.

If you want a prosperous family, if you want future generations to live better lives, you can only be the one laying the foundation and getting to the starting point that others can reach as soon as they are born.

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