To subtly influence the thoughts of others, you need to learn these mental cues

How to get people to do what you want through psychological suggestion?

Those who have studied psychology are often asked, "Do you know how to use psychology to "control" others? In fact, there are many ways to achieve "control" of others, but this is not the intention of psychology. As ordinary people, although we can not completely "control" others, but through some psychological suggestion, but still can subtly change the thoughts of others. Psychologists have found that the ideal life for everyone is to have everyone around them behave the way they want them to. On an emotional level, people are reluctant to actively change others because it is tantamount to showing their hostility to others. Therefore, influencing others by means of psychological suggestion becomes the most important concern of people.

The logic of psychological suggestion

Public order and morality

The logic underlying psychological suggestion is public order, which means that you cannot make others do bad things through psychological suggestion. Because it is public order, everyone cognitively understands what he or she should do. But when individuals are not reminded or hinted about this, they do not spontaneously follow the public order. There is always a selfish side to human nature, and individuals will often violate public order and morality when they are not supervised. At this time, you can make the other person aware of this aspect and understand to correct their behavior through some psychological hints. The reason why a mental cue is a cue means that you don't need too many words. When you go to the queue in a regular manner, others will also line up consciously, that is the reason.

Empathy

Empathy can be understood simply as the recurrence of past experiences. An individual's past behavior patterns will continue into the future as he or she grows up, and these patterns of behavior will basically not change much. When you know a person well enough to understand their upbringing, their family of origin, and even their traumatic experiences, it is easy to use empathy to get the individual to behave the way you want them to. For example, if you find that a person has a particularly strained relationship with his or her mother, it means that the person grew up lacking maternal love. If you are able to reconcile this image of being a "mother" in the person's life, then the person will be especially dependent on you.

Materials for psychological suggestion

Past experiences

One of the materials of psychological cues is past experiences, including primary and school experiences. The way an individual will act will roughly follow the past experiences. If you know enough about someone's past, then you can easily influence others by means of psychological suggestion. The individual's past experiences serve as material for psychological suggestion, and with enough past experiences, then the success rate of influencing others through psychological suggestion is higher. In addition to an individual's past unpleasant experiences, an individual's past pleasant experiences can also be used as good material. If your words and actions remind the other person of a good experience in the past, then the other person will become dependent on you and your psychological suggestion will be successful.

Shared memories

Shared memories are also good material for psychological suggestion, especially for good friends who have been together for a long time. After being together for a long time, they have gotten to know each other, and they will also produce "specific symbols" that belong to each other. The so-called specific symbols, means that when one party expresses the special symbols, others do not understand what the meaning, but only the other party can immediately comprehend. You can call this phenomenon "tacit understanding", but its logical basis is mental suggestion. The more memories we have in common, the easier it is to improve the level of understanding by way of mental suggestion, so that the other person will act in accordance with their own ideas. This also shows that psychological suggestion is easier to carry out when there is no psychological guard for each other.

Public order and morality

Both of the above materials are carried out when they are very familiar with each other, but they are not feasible for strangers. For strangers or first-time acquaintances, the material that needs to be used for psychological suggestion is public order and common decency. In other words, even though the two people do not know each other very well, they are following the same rules and customs. As a social person, everyone should follow public order. When you imply this to the other person by means of public order, you can make the other person act in accordance with your ideas. Of course, your ideas must also be consistent with public order and morality, because you can't make others act according to your selfish ideas.

Techniques of psychological suggestion
Gaining trust

The skill of psychological suggestion is to gain the trust of the other person and lower their guard. If a person is wary of you, everything you say or do will be seen as a threat. If you try to take control of the other person with bad intentions, it is easy to be recognized by the other person at once. The principle of psychological suggestion is not to hurt others, once you want to hurt others, then you will lose all the trust of the other person. The purpose of psychological suggestion is to make the other party act in accordance with your ideas, but your ideas must be open and honest ideas, not just to meet their own selfish needs. If you want to use psychological suggestion to influence others, first gain the trust of the other party.

Expressing the claim

Even though it's a mental note, you need to be clear about what you're asking for. One of the mistakes people make is to overestimate how well others know them. Many people feel that they should know what is on their mind without having to say it. But in fact, if you do not say what you think, others do not know what you think. As long as you don't explicitly say what you want to do, no one else will know what you want to do, and no one will actively try to understand you. The direction of psychological suggestion is to make the other person act according to your expectations, if you do not even know your own expectations, then others will only be confused.

In conclusion, it is true that you can influence others by means of psychological suggestion, but only if you gain the trust of the other person and should not hurt anyone.