Steemit Engagement Challenge | S14W3 | Parent's Strict Behavior and Children's Mental Health

Hello and welcome to my blog. Guess we are doing great. Acts of strictness may not be as bad viewed from the contest. However, we have to differentiate between strictness and discipline. There is a thine line that makes it abusive which is no longer for correction.

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I have no worries about parents being strict with their children but only concerned about how they are carried out. There are different ways of carrying out strictness but we have to apply caution in whichever case.

Acts of strictness by default sends signals or message to the kids that daddy or mummy will not tolerate that misgivings. The kids already know their parent's actions even before they act ill.

Strict parents instill discipline into their kids. This is seen by vehemently refusing wrongdoings no matter who is involved. This helps to build their morals and ensure there is even irresponsibility for everyone.

But one demerit about this is that when overstretched, kids tend to have tough skin on those punishments. They say, after all, is it not a punishment that I will get? Over familiarity with a pattern from the parents.

It can also lead to timidity. Kids may live in fear and find it difficult to express themselves freely. We all know the danger of this as this pits our kids in a danger we hope never existed.

I grew up in a home where discipline was the hallmark of the home. My mom being a teacher cannot instill that into other kids at school and abandon her own at home. We got it raw, and she followed through with us to the latter. I wouldn't know if this was largely different from a strict parent.

However, this does not stop the jokes, fun, and laughter that follow up when we are all good and acting responsibly. Except that's the case of a strict home. Strictness, I have faced and tasted at different times but that didn't make me worse.

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The only thing that made it a cruise was the carrot-and-stick approach that created the most needed balance at home. However, I have seen where it was out of hand the kids developed an approach likened to being rebellious.

Therefore, I am someone who can adapt to any situation. I behave like Romans when in Rome, so being in a strict room wouldn't be an issue for me that should be viewed otherwise. So far it is tailored towards correction void of personal grudges.

When was a child, I received a full dose of discipline and that is what I would still want to receive if a child. This may not sound palatable especially when I was a child but what does it profit me to be treated with kid gloves and find it difficult to navigate through life in my adulthood?

The behaviors of our parents then looked so much like they hated us given their treatment to us but these are all corrective measures to us for a better and healthier lifestyle in the future.

I remember having some challenging disagreements with my mom even during my university days. Her grip did not leave me each time I came back home for the holidays. One thing those treatments have afforded me was that, when I'm outdoors, I keep having a reflection of her with me before handling tasks.

If my conscience tells me that this won't go down well with her if she gets to know about it, then I have to retreat from it. In a nutshell, I don't think being strict overrules the importance of discipline.

Therefore, I will still want to have a behavioral pattern where my parents are disciplined enough to correct some foundational errors in children.

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It subjects one to self-pity. A situation where there is a loss of confidence. A child who continually receives such strict treatment without a relative balance may feel less of him or herself in handling tasks.

It also creates fear in them each they see you because their belief system is that they might be wrong and who knows what they would be told this time.

It might also drive them out in the course of looking for succor and if they receive anything close to what gives them less, they quickly align and get wild and start living in deceit.

Child discipline or Strictness at home should be done in moderation. We parents should be able to clearly state our boundaries, and create enabling balance to douse any tension created by our behavioral patterns.

Thank you and remain blessed.

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