Helping without actually helping

I found this fascinating mentality when discussing with pro-vaccers, but I think it can be applied to many other groups, such as pro-life, anti-gun, ...

The pro-vaccers pretend to be super concerned about the health of other peoples children's. To save them the state needs to step in and force everyone to get vaccinated. No matter concerns about state power abuse, authoritarianism and much more. But do these people actually care about the children or is is just the desire to have power, virtue signalling and being able to feel morally superior without actually doing anything?

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What if there would be a non-authoritarian solution to these problems?
When the last discussion about vaccinations came up I said that most of the unvaccinated children don't have parents that are militant antivaccers, but parents who forget/ have more important problems/ are disorganised or are struggling to deal with their children. The vaccination rate can probably be brought well above 99% (the gold standard for herd immunity) by offering families help and free voluntary medical services. Instead of going the authoritarian route, we can actually solve this problem by ourselves.

Needless to say, nobody of them started doing anything in their free time and all of them continue to support government intervention. Why is that?

I think the only logical conclusion is that they don't really give a fuck about the children. Going out and doing real work is hard. Supporting government intervention is easy but one may still feel superior and 'doing the right thing'.
They hate anti-vaccers and turn what should be about the children, into a fight between their group and their perceived enemies. They strive to 'win' and think they deserve it because they are the better humans.

Essentially the same is true for the pro-lifers. How about instead of asking for government bans on abortions you go and offer support to struggling mothers? That will save children's lives; it is hard but it will work. But no, it's much easier to fight the political battle and play the cheap moralist.

How about instead of calling authority and separating the world into us vs them, we look at the existing problems and then see what we can do to make things better? Based on local voluntary help. This will actually have a direct positive impact, while political work is a waste of time that just creates more problems than it will ever solve.