When should you stop helping others?

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One of the principles that we have created is to provide assistance and assistance to all who need it, and not to hesitate in providing any kind of assistance, whether material or moral support. This has become a fundamental pillar in the lives of some difficult to abandon. But of course there must be controls to provide assistance to keep yourself and your efforts, otherwise it may be counterproductive.

Ask yourself these questions to know if you are overwhelmed by the problems and concerns of others
Do you feel guilty if you do not help once?
Are you the person you depend on most of your family and friends?
Do you accept the help of others even if you do not have the time or resources to do so?
Are you compressed in time?
Are you afraid to be described as selfish?
Do you avoid conflict and confrontation?
Does your relationship or friendship take the form of one party, meaning you do most of the work?
Are you afraid that people will stop your religion if you say no to them?
Do you sometimes feel angry or resentful about someone asking for help, but you will not say no?
So, you need to re-evaluate your personality and relationships so that you keep yourself and your energy, and do not allow anyone to exploit you. Here, another policy of assistance must be followed.

When should you stop helping others?
Stop helping people who do not deserve

If these people do not care about you, do not give them help, they do not deserve it. There is a fact to be aware that most people will start to exploit you if you allow them. You do not always have time, just give help to those who deserve it, and before you help anyone, you have to give it to yourself.

Stop helping people who can not

The easiest way to transform your friend into an enemy is to give advice that he does not want to hear. If you offer help, that's because you want it, but most people are not willing to accept that help.

Do not help unless you are sure you can do it 100%

If you do not have the full skill, or the time to help someone, you may be more in need than you. Believe it or not, your kindness and charity may hurt others without you. One of the easiest ways to destroy your relationships with others is to offer help that you can not provide.

Are there any health effects that may result from overloading yourself with the problems of others?

According to Susan Newman, author and psychosocial therapist, loving people often say "yes" to most things to avoid uncomfortable situations. But by focusing on caring for others, feeling guilty or selfish for doing something for yourself means that your health is often in the back. This may cause you to feel anxious, because you are doing too much, or because you are afraid of not helping properly. So you're in a constant state of tension, to accomplish everything for all people. Then you will be tired, and your resistance to the disease will decrease, making you vulnerable to colds!

You need to focus your energies on changing yourself for the better

Before you think of helping others, you have to evaluate yourself and put your hand on things that you need to change for the better. They may be very simple, but they are very important. Pay attention to your food, do your sports, treat your family and loved ones better, and motivate yourself to find a better job.