Did you ever have a day that was perfectly horrible due to the anger, hurt and fear of 2 family members and you and your spouse are called into absorb the brunt of it and try to be counselors and help these two family members find a way to push through their differences and find a way to live in the same house for a few months?
Well consider yourself lucky, because it made for a hellacious day for me! The aforementioned family members are a grandmother(83 years old) and her grown granddaughter(23 years old) who she raised from age 4 due to her parents not being around! This grown granddaughter has now found herself, husband and 2 very young children having to live in her grandmother's house due to not so wise decisions that led to them having no car and no place to live.
I am spent from the anger and all the hurt that has been revealed to me that exists between this niece and her grandmother(my mother). Let's just say my husband and I found a way to get them to calm down, talk and hopefully live in the same house until my niece can save up money from her husband's new job and their return income tax money.
I'm a praying woman and rely on God's help and guidance, but I'm so involved that I cried enough to give myself a headache and also feel like I had the chills after hearing the loud negative yelling coming out of my niece about everything that was or has been wrong in her life since she was 12. We tried to get her to go to counseling years ago.
Just a note to let you know that this niece's daddy(my only brother) committed suicide when she was only 4 and to let you know 19 years later, the effects of it are still reverberating through her life, her 4 siblings, my life and my husband life. Over the years it has also affected my children and my grown siblings lives.
Mental health needs to be paid attention to. My brother was struggling and trying to find help, but he didn't find it. Also to let you know my daddy also committed suicide when I was 16 (my brother was 15), so my life has had this dynamic a long, long time.
I don't have the answers, I'm just trying to love the family that has been left behind.
My only other action is to pray and ask God to send healing to any and all people that are affected by a family member who commits suicide and leaves the rest of us all to grieve and move on with life.
I'm a positive and praying Christian and I still believe in a loving God and I've also had many, many happy days and years since my daddy passed away when I was 16.
If you've made it to the end of this, just try to make someone else's day/night better...
Hug them, call them, forgive them for some transgression, make them a meal, give them a ride somewhere, say something kind, ask how you can help, talk to them and listen to them.
We are all in this together, this thing called life.
"Try to brighten someone else's day".
I think that's my life motto!
And if you are thinking, why is she sharing this on Steemit - well let's just say I hope to reach more people than I would if I shared it on facebook.
I have met some beautiful, kind souls here on Steemit.
Have a Blessed Day!
January 3, 2019
Original sunset photo from December 29, 2018