The first part is amazing piece of writing.
"Telling a volunteer, who just took a minute, maybe one of the last, to listen to an old lady's story about her flight from the Red Army over the frozen Baltic and how the horses broke in and drank and the bombers made low-altitude fly-overs, to hurry up collecting the dishes, that is despicable " what a sentence....
I too have seen what going into dementia can do to a person, even a well-cared person. It's a tragedy.
Yet, I am not well-informed enough to have a valuable opinion so let me just say that the whole article is great, greatly written and i hope i'll see more of your work soon.

[ PS: I like to answer to people asking me " you know how did socrate die?" with\ "yeap! death by being a smart-ass!" The painting is perfect :) ]