Why Do People Become Unhappy, What Thoughts And Actions Are Causing This?

hi friends steemian all look at the photos of this schoolchildren, kecerian and happiness exists with them, but what happens with us who have grown up or old do not feel that there ..? ok then let's just the same we read this post how to make our life happy.
but before I want to ask : Why do people become unhappy, what thoughts and actions are causing this? Let's try to answer this question.

In today's world there are many questions that even after several thousand years have not received a syllable answer. This applies to the theme of happiness. It is estimated that everyone is happy as much as himself decides to be happy.

The opinions of psychologists are divided: some believe that this country is created because of external circumstances, others, on the contrary, argue - against these external factors have nothing to do, because a happy person is a harmony of inner peace and circumstances around him.

However, no matter how divided, there are a number of undesirable things to do so the feeling of happiness does not go away for years. Here's the main thing:

1. First of all, you do not need to complain. Often, people discuss price issues in stores, government and family issues. Express their dissatisfaction, expect sympathy - something that is not grateful and unwise. A person who constantly complains, then is associated only with negative things and failures, because he himself creates the most unfavorable image by artificial means.

1. You should not avoid problem solving and suffer at the same time. Complex life situations are really familiar to everyone. And, of course, they need a solution. Therefore, rather than describing the level of total despair and destruction, we must find a way to get out of the current difficulties.

1. Do not compare yourself with someone. You just need to take a closer look to understand: you already have a good job, and some people can only dream of it; beautiful families, and in the meantime, some suffer from loneliness; perspectives and plans for the future - while one lives "one day" and suffers at the same time. Are not these all enough to be happy and not to compare yourself with others, not even suspecting what these people have gone through to be at the level of life at the time.

1. No need to pursue the goals of all help. Trying to be good for all and at the same time will never work. And if someone still manages to make someone happy, then definitely not yourself. Therefore, you need to think: is it worth giving the public awareness of themselves as victims.

Another factor that can instill in a person the feeling that he is unhappy is setting goals, achievements that are not real to him. Often, people who live in the illusion, inspire themselves: this or that they really need, despite the fact that to achieve this they really can not. Of course, that goal is not achieved, turns into an impossible dream, and a person suffers from feelings of helplessness, subsequent frustration and insecurity.

To be a happy person, one should not complain about destiny, but objectively see what happens, just help those who really need it and be satisfied with what they already have. The main thing is learning how to enjoy every day you live and then you will learn to be happy. You must learn to live your life in your own pleasure.