I don't know if I said that no one should have a code, if I did, I apologise for the lack of clarity, because I am not against that. Take for instance the Samurai code of Bushido. There is some really great lessons contained within there.

However, if one wants to live by a code, it should be one of their own making, or one that they have chosen willingly to adhere to. The law is a completely different thing. It's pages and pages of rules that no one can keep up with, yet have to follow because.. Why? Because if you don't you will be put in jail.

That's not a moral code, that's just slavery. But yes, I agree with everything else you say, and unfortunately, I don't have a feasible solution either. It seems we have allowed ourselves to be tricked into digging a hole that we now don't have the resources of the level communication necessary to climb our way out of it together.