RUDE IN-LAWS?! No ProbleM !! :D

"Never rely on the glory of the morning nor the smiles of your mother-in-law," advises a Japanese proverb. Problems with in-laws transcend culture and have existed almost as long as human beings have walked the earth. That said, some in-law issues are particularly difficult. When you feel you are being treated rudely by your spouse's closest relatives, it can sting. In this case, it's a good idea to have a few strategies in place to help you cope with intentional or unintentional barbs.

Assume your in-laws' intentions are good. Your mother-in-law's remark about how it would be best if you could stay home with the baby might not be an attempt to disparage your parenting style, but it could have originated with a fear of her granddaughter being in child care. Or she could simply wish for an easier life for you and your family. Without being able to read her mind, you'll never know, so you might as well assume the best. Doing so will help you to contain your anger at hearing unwelcome (and rude-sounding) opinions.

You and your spouse have been doing everything right in handling your in-laws. You became a united front. The two of you drew the lines in protecting your family. You’ve been enforcing these boundaries when challenged. So why are your parents-in-law still a pain in the ass?

Being told that your behavior is inappropriate, offensive, hurtful is a tough pill to swallow. Even if your in-laws know that they’ve been out of line, you and your spouse are likely to get objections or incredulous reactions in calling them out on their behavior and saying enough is enough. This is especially true if your in-laws are high on themselves, the stubborn sort, or total narcissists.

The tone of your conversations may need to change if your in-laws don’t want to take the hint and continue to disrespect your wishes. In these cases, call them out on their behavior and how it makes you feel, explaining to them that there will be major consequences if they cross your “bottom” line, which you need to then make perfectly known.

If boundaries are still be disrespected, then bring such to everyone’s attention, e.g., “You’re not criticizing my child rearing practices again, are you?” This may need to be done several times, as positions of power don’t shift overnight, and people often act out when they feel powerless. Training in-laws can be a lot like teaching children boundaries, with a “try, try again” approach necessary. Such can, however, become really old really fast, with more extreme measures required in putting an end to unacceptable behavior once and for all.

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