Have also wondered why so many lesbians go butch, and gay guys get girly. If it doesn't matter... why does it look like it does. I stay out of these matters completely. Teach kids to be human, and then when they get to high school perhaps, or college... discuss society's expectations on more than just gender as a narrowing characteristic. To some extent, some kid may think they are gay, when they aren't as a result. On the other side, it also teaches at a male may have feminine characteristics, but still identify as male. Depends on who is having the conversation, doubt it will be impartial... humans are not good at that.