Frienship Nowadays

You know, I am a friendly social butterfly kind of person. Well, better said- I used to be. I liked talking and meeting people and on more than one occasion I made friends with random people.
Which brings me to my point about this post. I have been living in USA for 13 years now and I can tell you for a fact that this factor matters when it comes to my friendship relationships.

To give you a few examples- I still keep in touch with some people from college, or best friend from high school and such but dynamics have changed and not always for the better. Nowadays if you don't have Facebook you are out of touch with your friends and people. Like there is almost no other way for us to communicate. I have recently disabled my Facebook because I am sick of what is doing to me. I scroll through the page aimlessly like a lost person. I do this outta habit and I don't like this habit. So I shut down my account for one month, other times for less. Point is- friendships are NOT what they used to be.

If I don't write to my friends on Facebook, I almost never hear from them. If I don't use Facebook, I am falling behind with all that it happens in their lives- marriage, kids etc. But I also refuse to be controlled by this. So so many aspects of our lives are controlled in so many ways.

To me- Facebook does not mean friendship. To me friendship is picking up the phone and calling that person and get your updates that way. You can send me pics on WhatsApp, you can text me - where there is a will there is a way.
I cannot tell you how many times I have reached to friends and called them - rather than talking over Facebook and I can also tell you that my phone doesn't ring much with incoming calls from friends.

I have had friendships that lasted more than seven years and then at some point after that whatever came up, now these friendships don't exist anymore. Relationships that were really tight and awesome in the past, are just that now- a thing of the past. Sometimes I look back at all these people I met and shared some parts of my life, and now all it is , is a distant memory.
I can count on one hand how many friends I have and I can count on many hands how many people I know. There is a huge difference of course. Life changes and I don't think I should be in the same spot I was ten years ago, I just noticed how much things changed when it comes to my friendships.
I am curious to know about your friendship relationship and where you stand in this. Please drop me a line to this post if you wish and as always, don't forget to up vote me.

Namaste,

Diana