Parenting without physical violence is like parenting without emotional violence: rare.
In this culture of psychological gamesmanship it seems virtually impossible to operate without coercion, especially when combined with the statist influences in schools. To be invited into career world we are required to adopt some kind of team mentality to survive, and to look past horrific behaviour in others. To encourage a child to approach the world with honesty and acceptance as a primary driving force may require almost complete isolation.
Also, when one gives power to their child, seems others are quite willing to step up and fill the void. Best of luck, mine drifted off into some pro-government hopeful dreamscape from which only government theft will likely ever correct.
You should read up on the millions of peaceful parents and how they do it. So many books, videos, courses, etc on the subject.
I guess I'm more getting at the idea that forces beyond ourselves are constantly trying to change any non-standard narrative. When we try to navigate against the tide, there can be some push-back.
We can do our best, but we're not the only ones involved. The outside forces must be considered too, and sometimes addressing those can be very tricky. (Specifically if it is the other parent and they have assumed a court sponsored combative didactic.)
I hear you on that!