No idea what 'ararachism' is, but if you can give me a better word for 'living together' please do!

family, clan, tribe, monkeysphere

'A society is a group of people involved in persistent social interaction, or a large social group sharing the same geographical or social territory, typically subject to the same political authority and dominant cultural expectations.'

Typically, yes. not necessarily... Don't see your problem with the term Sir!

the problem is the conflation with the word 'love'.

So new problem now. Let's see. The word Love is kinda crucial here, since it is the opposite of fear and the urge to control has its roots in fear.

Ok...tell me how a 'society' that is not based on control would work.
Has there ever been one?
What are the limitations?

A society not based on control and force would be based on voluntary association and voluntary action. Most things you do on a day to day basis are structured like this as we speak. Unfortunately there are still (and growing) parts in our lives in which control (through force and the threat thereof) is exercised by those who do not believe in the Non-Aggression-Principle. In the Spanish civil war millions of people lived completely self-organized and made it work very well. Then, of course, the fascists under Franco and the communists handled by the Soviet Union crushed this effectively together. Limitations? No limitations for freedom as far as I can see!

Spanish civil war millions of people lived completely self-organized and made it work very well
why was it called a civil war?
please give me some examples of which you speak.

Watch this,

Or read George Orwell's Homage to Catalonia.

I want YOU to explain TO ME what you are talking about.

If you cannot explain something then you do not understand it.

isn't voluntary association the same as discrimination?
If not then how is it different?

That depends on what you mean by discrimination. Is it discrimination when you choose who you actually spend your time with?

yup..certainly is.
I choose to discriminate.
Is that OK?
what are the limits of the OK ed ness?
why should there BE any limits?