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RE: Grandpa Gotta Eat—Food And Me: A Walk To Remember
Things just aren't the same as to when my wife and I were starting out.
Right??!! I never expected to move away from home and be able to live in the same conditions that I was used to at my parents' house. Nor did I care. I just wanted to have a place of my own, independence etc.
That could get a little "sticky" when the second son comes home too. How is that something you 'forget' anyway? Convenient memory lapse do you think? Before you know it, you'll have the whole damn gang there!
That is a total 180. :)
I remember the last time we chatted about this, it was the exact opposite from your wife. I guess she's had about enough too. I always think that we raise our kids once. Not again and again and again haha
I don't think this generation of kids has got the message that it takes a while and some hard work to get where their parents were. I'm not sure why that is, either, because I know I've done my best to instill it my sons and they still end up expecting to have nice things when they haven't done much yet to earn them. The Millennials, man, I tell you. :)
Yeah, it could, but the daughter-in-laws talk and so who knows. Maybe they'll work things out between them. Or the youngest set will move out. With the youngest son at a job he likes and slated to start up again in the fall, I don't think they could end up that far away for a while. I guess things can always change. They keep looking for more work.
With the older set, well, they should probably be out on their own, but they're the ones who won't have a job when they come back, unless my oldest son gets his internship out this way, which is always a possibility. The kid is known for getting lucky and just happening into things.
I doubt it's memory lapse as much as it is thinking we won't say anything again. Unless there's a good reason not to go with her parents, I'm going to keep pushing it. Gently. But push it. :)
Yeah, well, I think when it comes down to it, she likes having them here, but for some reason, they have their own opinions, and they think we should listen to them, and too often they clash with our own opinions, and it's like, "This is our house!"
I don't know what it is either, but neither of mine like to suffer too much either, and it's the same as you, I've instilled a work ethic and the idea that you have to work and earn things. It's strange.
Even though our kids aren't technically "company", there's a window of time and then they too can overstay their welcome :)
It is your house after all :)
Yes it is, and right now the benefit of having them living with us is the ability to see the granddaughter on a daily basis. Without her, we probably would be more insistent they go.
Since my older son and his wife have already made the Facebook announcement, I guess it's okay to go ahead and announce (you'll be the first to know) that they are expecting their first child, a boy, the beginning of December. So, I will be a grandpa again. :) And we'll now have one of each.
I think there's just too much counter programming going on outside of our influence. It's everywhere and it's nonstop. Once they're leaving the house, you can't be there to reprogram every day. Plus, they go through that period where they're living on their own and making some life choices so they start listening to you less anyway.
Add to that any freebies they're able to get through one deal or another so that they have internet in some form, living expenses can be shared with a couple of roommates, and the pain factor goes down.
Then, they start thinking everything should be inexpensive because they can't live without social media and their online gaming. They'll spend money on that before they'll eat properly or upgrade to a better apartment or neighborhood.
Anyway, it's not like I think they're meant to suffer, I just know that going through adversity helps to toughen you up, give you the ability to get through the hard times. Some situations, as you well know, I wouldn't wish on anyone for any reason. But life doesn't listen to me. It drops where it wants, when it wants, and it falls on the good, the bad and the ugly. Just as the sun shines on all of them, too. :)
Congratulations Grandpa! A second; one of each is awesome:) That's exciting! I'm honored I was the first to know, but sadly, I'm behind on comments and saw your "announcement" post along with everyone else haha
I noticed you were behind, not for me or anywhere else, but your latest post. Hopefully things are okay. I keep saying that and then you say something about Brian having some bad days. Well, I'm hoping this one is like the day you both went walking to the beach, and that he didn't pay for it very long afterward and you went and did it again.
I can tell you're back at it, though. :)
Well, it just happened to be the right place and the right time for me to tell you, since the kids had already told the world. I find it all a little too guarded the way both pairs are going about it, but I guess I'll get used to it. Now we've got to wait until the kid is born before they tell us the name. I'm afraid the other daughter-in-law is having too much of an influence in this. It's suppose to save them some hassling if people don't like the name, but it ends up being some dumb power struggle. I don't care. I just want to refer to the child as more than just the baby.
Doesn't mean grandpa won't come up with a nickname. That's cooler. :)