MY FOMO

My FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is when I'm in my bed with a fatty take away and pyjamas, about to watch my favourite series and, than I get a whatsup message asking me to hang out somewhere.

Then things get a little confusing.

On the one hand, I am really grateful for having friends who want to hang out with me. but on the other hand, I hate it.

I hate it because I had a long day and from the morning Ive been fantasising this quality time with my self. Just me and myself. Quietly. Not having someone to tell me what to do or wanting to impress.

And then this phone alert comes and messes things up. Cause if I say yes, most likely I wil have this mediocre pastime that would make me spand money wich I didn’t plan to, having less time of sleep and being covered with sigarett smell
And if I don’t go it will be much worse: planty of negative thoughts start to drill in my poor mind wondering what If I miss out in some great opportunities that might appear? What if I am suppose to meet the love of my life this time? What if my friends wouldn't invite me anymore? Am I anti socialise person wanting to stay in bad? What if its a sign of depression?

All this, and clearly no quality time is happening.

Fomo has many shapes in my life.

What I try to do to avoid it is, first of all, try to acknowledge that its okay sometimes wanting to go out sometimes wantong to stay in. also, try to get ready from ahead. for instance, if I plan to stay in tonight I put my phone away and look at it only in the morning after.
The most fun hangouts are when they happen spontaneously but I like sometimes to plan at least one evening from ahead so my mind is relaxed that my social life is okay.
and of course to understand that its all bullshit and the most important thing is to come with a decision and stick with it:)