It's Never a Woman's Fault - How Women's Wrong Deeds are Always a Call for Help

I was reading the newspaper last night, and came across an interview with a female arsonist, currently serving five years in prison for setting fire to several buildings, destroying property and endangering the lives of many in the process.

The whole tone of the interview and all around article bugged me.

While the arsonist was repentant, the article wasted no time in adding an expert - female - into the mix to remind everybody that while, yes, women sometimes - not as often as men, mind you - do cause harm and damage like this, they are mostly "calls for help".

It's not really the woman's fault, she was just in a very bad situation and simply had no other choice other than to set buildings on fire. Had somebody just listened to her, offered her a shoulder and really understood what she was going through, all of this could have been avoided.

But that did not happen, and the woman was driven into a corner, and when all else was lost, she was basically forced to destroy these buildings.

That's how it goes. She was really the victim in all of this.

See, this is a great example of this sort of low key, everyday feminism that's all around us, but most never pay any attention to.

Anybody who's ever spent a minute debating with a feminist knows that when you bring up the fact that men and women are already equal in front of law, and have been for a long time, you get bombarded with statements about how it's not just the legislature that matters, there are still sexist attitudes all around us, and this, that and the other thing.

Among the alleged - and admittedly existent - sexist attitudes, it rarely, if ever, gets mentioned that somehow men receive 63% longer sentences on average than women do, and women are twice as likely to avoid incarceration if convicted.

The explanation for this, obviously, is that even in this time and age of equality, we are still hardwired to see women as the victims, and less evil than men by default.

This is despite the fact that women are pretty damn capable of some absolutely horrific shit. Sometimes in such a manner that would leave most men terrified.

The same goes for cheating, too.

When a man cheats, he's an asshole and a bad person. It doesn't matter that kind of a relationship he was in; it doesn't matter whether his wife was giving him sex at all; it doesn't matter if she was throwing things at her during rage fits. Whatever happened during their relationship at home is irrelevant. The fact remains that the man was a pig and did a wrong thing and has no value as a human being.

However.

When a woman cheats, it's magically still the man's fault.

Women are never responsible for their cheating, they were just driven into that situation through circumstances beyond their control. Her husband was not mindful or attentive enough. He was at work a lot. He wasn't exciting enough. She had daddy and abandonment issues, or whatever the fuck.

Of course the wife cheats, she has no other choice. She has needs. She can't be trapped in a bad relationship like this, she has to be allowed to be happy and live and be free. If anything, it's just self expression.

And a cry for help.

It just happens, on its own. And it happens because she's the victim.

I'm totally okay with expecting different things from the two genders, but if feminism wants people to be equal, it's not always going to be pretty, because being born a man is, in a lot of ways, a really raw deal, and most women honestly couldn't handle that shit.