Hey @didic, I love how you explained this.
For me, especially as someone who was marginalized from the jump (female-socialized), I have noticed that the overall difference in how "feminism" (or any other ism really) cannibalizes itself for lack of empathy.
As soon as we in the community are marginalizing one another and excluding/finger-pointing, I think we pretty much lose our case for feminism.
I'm certainly no expert or scholar on the topic, either. Just a guy here who has witnessed this from a specifically polarizing angle of it and so happy to be amongst my tribe.