Great article. I've always preached that we are slaves to our instincts despite how hard we try to convince ourselves we are not. What attracts women to men and men to women doesn't really change much.

Its true, men of all species are always the ones that must attract the female... thats why cardinal males are bright red, anole lizards have a red crest they pop out their throat, peacocks have such an amazing feather display, rams bash each other's heads, male squid rapidly color change, and why human men buy all the crap we do... to impress the opposite sex in the hopes they'll mate with us. We are slaves to our DNA... just vessels they use to replicate themselves.

Let me tell you something: if a man could fuck a woman in a cardboard box, he wouldn’t buy a house.” - Dave Chappelle

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=106&v=GwJVh1BzrUY

An excellent book is *The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature"... Amazon's description:

Referring to Lewis Carroll's Red Queen from Through the Looking-Glass, a character who has to keep running to stay in the same place, Matt Ridley demonstrates why sex is humanity's best strategy for outwitting its constantly mutating internal predators. The Red Queen answers dozens of other riddles of human nature and culture -- including why men propose marriage, the method behind our maddening notions of beauty, and the disquieting fact that a woman is more likely to conceive a child by an adulterous lover than by her husband. Brilliantly written, The Red Queen offers an extraordinary new way of interpreting the human condition and how it has evolved.