Now, no one expects that their life will be completely turned upside down by a single court ruling, but it happens.

Let's not forget that this begins with getting served legal paperwork of some sort. Usually when first served you're trying to be positive and believing for a hopeful and positive resolution.

No one expects their life to be turned upside down through the financial losses incurred by having to go through these processes. If you don't, you're automatically agreeing by your silence to any and all false accusations made against you. If you do go through the processes (because you love your children), then you do so expecting the courts and CPS will listen and accept common sense -- or even better -- actual proof that the accusations against you are false.

When you learn by going through this process, they don't, you're left not only finding yourself financially drained, but mentally left in shreds as well. The feeling of betrayal and the shock that you're feeling that the system that is supposed to listen to common sense, not allow you to be financially drained (that would be in the best interest of your child!) and actually accept proof -- doesn't, is called moral injury.

It's a clinical term.

And think about this: Why should you have to ask the court for an order to have your rights upheld? Aren't they guaranteed to you by law? If that is true (and we can see in black and white in the statutes that this is true), then why aren't the people who are violating your rights being punished automatically by the judges who are supposed to be upholding the law? Why does the system make you file more paperwork, spend more money out of your own pocket just to have your complaint about an obviously proven violation of your rights to be heard?

Just think about that.

I always appreciate people taking the time to help others through this process.

But what I personally find is that the much larger issue is the system itself.

• Listen to the truth
• Enforce the laws you're sworn to uphold
• Stop abusing the loopholes to line your own pockets
• Actually fight for the kids you're supposed to be protecting

START DOING THE RIGHT THING and people will start to trust in the system again.