Should a man be responsible for his wife's family?

sirpaul (52)in #family • 7 years ago

I know there are a lot of responsible, mature and sensible men and women on this platform. So I want to ask if a man should be responsible for his wife's family.

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A friend of mine recently cried out how he has been subjected to taking care of his wife's family. Apart from buying things for them during festive periods, he is still been called on every now and then to take care of minor issues that should ordinarily be taken care by the family. There are grown up men in his wife's family but this young man will still be called on to foot medical bills of his father-in-law, support house rent and other funny things such as paying for DSTV subscription. Whenever he complained to the wife about these, she would tell him if members of her family could help, they would have done that. The eldest male in the family who is almost 42 still calls my friend for financial assistance!

Now, my question is: Does it mean if my pal's wife didn't marry him, the entire family would have been wiped out by financial problems? I personally feel his unnecessary kindness towards the family is becoming a huge burden in his life as he can save part of his income. I believe he is been used.

I believe this is a common phenomenon in some families which makes it look as if it is the responsibility of a man to cater for his wife's family no matter how comfortable or not the man may be.

What do you think?

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7 years ago in #family by sirpaul (52)

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kenhudoy (61) 7 years ago

@sirpaul
it may be right and wrong... In africa we practice extended family and once we are married, we see our inlaws as part of that extended family... the fault is from the wife who should caution his family... he should talk to his wife and his wife should see reason for his husband to save for their kids future... nice post... thanks for sharing. find time also to check my new blog post on absentee husbands...