How does a woman get over such trauma? I've seen many women with such happy expectations for a beautiful birth exactly like how they wrote it all down in their birthing plan, to go on to have all their expectations ripped to pieces. Such incredible disappointment and such feelings of failure as a woman. It is surely a fundamental right to not be pressured in birth. To let it take its time. For everyone around to be patient and in the womans zone. I had three home births, all with their own difficulties and issues, but all successful in the end. I have friends who have had three days labours which would definitely not be allowed if they'd been in the Uk healthcare system. Birth needs time.