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What it means to be a family? Is it all about money how to live happily?

Before you get married you must know each other first and most of all there is love. You chooses someone because you love them. There's a saying in bisayan dialect, made from long time ago. "Bahalag saging basta loving." If we translate it and explain in english it means, " you both don't care if you'll just eat banana as long as you love each other." Well nowadays that line won't be accepted because according to married people. The love will go outside, in the door and in the window if you don't have food to eat. Cursing each other, blaming each other and regreting why choosing the wrong one. Now, the fighting will started, start to shout and angrier that's why it's hard for each other to understand. Did you believe that it's okay to be separated because of long argument?

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The conversation will become nonsense because you can't think right. Your mind wants to satisfied that anger. You become too focus of what you are believing, as if you don't hear or understand anything. For you what you've been telling is correct. As conversation gets long, you start to realize the flaws of one another. You're not communicating anymore, you have different ideas you want to express. You don't know anymore if you really are talking each other. You don't answer the question because you answered it with a question. If no one loosen the pride the conversation won't be over. You don't accept that what you've been talking is completely out of the issue. The other can't stand the fight anymore because it became annoying. Then decide just to walk away with out settle the fight.
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The one decided to walk away while the other keep on mumbling. Still not satisfied of the issue and you knew that if some walked away while you're still talking will just make the fight worst. The one who remains in the house stop mumbling but when the other one returns the fight will explode again. The words that came from their mouth will out over and over again.

Do you think this happens because of money only?

"NO!" But because of not understanding each other. Before you get married you knew both of yourself. The work and the atittude, you already knew it. You have a fight because you forgot to tell your partner about the problems, like money where did it go, where have you been. Yes, the money is the source of everything but never forget you're the one who can handle it. If you trully understands each other, you will know how to lose that pride. Shouting vs shouting won't do any good, let the other one talk first before you answered. If the problems is not yet settle have a nice conversation with it, dont leave if you just want to avoid the voicee but stay to stop it. Well if you're a guy you must control the flow, ley your partner talk first. If she's done talking then you start with a positive idea. "We can solve it", "why", "how". Ask your partner after then do a good communication. One question and one answer, it's a two sided conversation.
Settle the fight because you're a family, remember you have kids. They will be the most affected of your fight. Don't ruin their lives because you're the one gave it, be responsible of it.

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