Smallest social unit in the community and this simple definition makes the family being ignored and neglected.

Family, the smallest social unit 

Known to everybody, family is the smallest social unit in the community and this simple definition makes the family being ignored and neglected. The foundation of the family is vital to the foundation of a nation. It is compose of parents, kids, brothers, sisters & friends - and these compositions help each other to make its assembly a noble one. That’s the reason why parents go to work because they wanted to make sure that they will be able to sustain the needs of all the members of their family. Parents always go out for a living and sometimes went to other countries just to make sure that their subordinates are prepared to face the future.   

These desires for the family is admirable but as we can see at the current state of living, some people forgotten the most important thing in building a family, it’s not just about giving them all what they need because sometimes giving them all could be an avenue of misunderstanding and could result to a more undesirable things to happen instead. The most important thing in the family is relationship; people need to establish an outstanding connection to every member of the family. The world out there is unsafe, lots of wickedness ready to influence human beings making themselves satisfied seeing a person goes down or even do more evil things, get involve in crimes and other unlawful doings. These people are the example of families who failed to establish a good relationship to its subordinates. I’m not blaming anybody because every head of the family never wishes and nobody wishes that somebody in their family will be doing evil things but like I said the world is at bad state.   

How to establish a good relationship in the family? 

A very simple question but its answer is indefinite due to the existence of knowledge that has evolved around us. I am also a father, and like every head of the family, I also wanted to establish a bond with my wife, kids, brothers, sisters and friends. There are traditional ways which we had learn from our parents on how to build a good relationship but sometimes these things do not work on the current days, is it so? I believe my parents thought me well but sometimes I could not just share it directly to my kids, could it be that I don’t have the parenting skills that my parents have or could it be that I just don’t know my way around.    

The era of our ancestors have changed so well, knowledge has increase, wealth is flooding (not on me), experiences ascended and the environment had changed so much. Could it be the reason why sometimes people forgot or just neglect the importance of the family and focused on their own benefit? Everybody has ambitions and I won’t believe if someone will say that he/she has no ambitions. It is a reality, we all dream of something we wanted to happen or to have in the future but let us not forget that we also need to care each other especially to our own family.   

Each member of the family must understand each other; we need to consider each other’s thought, feelings, wants and plans in life. We don’t need to be a boss just to point out our view; we just need to be considerate in order to be understood too.   

How can a member of the family know how the other felt and how to know each plan for the future? 

Let’s not go too far, we need to talk with each other and talking not just for sometimes but most of the times. Communication is a good tool in establishing a good relationship just like when a man wanted to court a woman, he needs to communicate first. I don’t understand why it is hard for other parents to have a conversation with their kids without getting angry, is it because you had been telling them the same thing over & over again and yet they don’t understand? Is it necessary to get angry so you will be heard or could it be that you also have a problem and that you won’t be able to control yourself but to get angry? If that the case, then you need to start within yourself, you need to understand yourself first. Think a while, take a deep breath and asked yourself “What is my problem?” It is very difficult to come up with a conversation hoping that you’d be understood and yet you don’t understand yourself.   

When you finally realized and has clear vision of what you are going to do, then it’s time for you to open a conversation, if you can afford, do it outside the house, take a family outing or so. This could be a good avenue for you to start because a person always feels good during outing due to excitement. To start, if there’s a need to apologize do it, there’s nothing wrong in apologizing in front of your family, instead, it will result to a more profound bond with each other. Believe me, after you apologize, someone will also apologize after you and apologize after the other and this will result to a rounding conversation and will lead to a better understanding with each other. Do this every now and then especially during dinner, and if the people inside the house are having different time taking their meals, make it a point to take meals at same time, set a time. Talk about what happen during the day, let every member share their experiences, setting yourself aside just let them talk and have fun, you will then be surprise.     

Environmental Influences 

If we fail to establish a good relationship with our family, the environment will do it and it’s true that we could not trust the environment. It may be a good place to live because it was created to be a perfect dwelling place but it’s already corrupted by those people who live in corruption and misconduct. They are the fruits of those who failed to establish a good family, people who only live with their own ambitions not considering others. The environment may look good, yes it looks good it’s fascinating, in fact we see lots of people even me wanted to travel because of the desire to explore the environment but we could not hide the fact that there still dangers out there that will threaten the minds of our children.   

I’m not telling that we should avoid going out because that’s not living anymore, people who don’t go out are killing themselves gradually. It’s a part of life and that’s how we should live, let just not forget the family where we belong because whatever happen only a family can help you.