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RE: Excitement, Confusion, Doubts, Need for Advice from a Father to be
I remember having a lot of those same thoughts. I could try to give you a whole bunch of advice, but honestly, a lot of things will simply come into focus once she arrives. I think my biggest single piece of advice is to be present to what you and your wife are experiencing together. Stay in the moment. Especially the first few weeks, you will feel like you three are the only ones in the world, and that is one my best memories, although it came with a lot of confusion and fatigue. Being in the moment is always good advice, and it always brings rewards, but having a newborn is a really great time to practice it. Best of luck!
Yeah I think you are right! There is always so many tips and even tricks to throw around, but I am starting to feel that the whole parenthood is a very very subjective experience and none of those philosophical tips will really have any value unless I experience them on my own skin :)
But to be honest, since i have posted this post, something has already managed to change in me, I think there is a grand purpose for those 9 month of pregnancy...something happens during that time, both with the woman and the man.
Some deep instincts start to wake up from they dormant condition, even smaller things like being more careful and thinking twice before doing some crazy stuff ;)
I think all the info is out there for us to grab...we are natural parents, just need to be in tune with your self and be truly open to give an receive.
I really do think I'll be alright, it will take some time and it will not be without challenges...but I know that the most wonderful time of my life is still ahead of me, some of the most beautiful adventures is still yet to come...really looking forward to it.
Thanks for taking the time to comment!
I agree 110%. The nine months are about more than just a growing baby. I did think of one concrete tip. Grab a copy of The Happiest Baby on the block. Especially for dads, I can’t recommend enough. It will literally teach you how to soothe your baby and put her to sleep. This skill will make your wife look at you like your a superhero. It takes serious practice and focus, but I was like a ninja with our son who was awful at night. Don’t mean to scare you though :)
Hmm sounds very interesting, i am all about techniques :)
Will make sure to check it out.
"This skill will make your wife look at you like your a superhero" - LOL - looking forward to that ;)
I hope she will be chill and if not that is ok, I am not scared easily :)
Lol!