YOUR COUPLE IS NOT YOUR ENEMY

`` The Appearance of things changes according to the Emotions, thus we see magic and beauty in them; when in reality magic and beauty are in us''

K.G
Dear readers!
The life of a couple, indistinctly of the genders that conform it; we assume it to be happy, to form a home, to form a happy family with our children. That must be the primary objective of a family.
However, it often seems that this goal is lost sight of for various reasons. Then from that moment everything changes in the life of a couple.
My article is based on the experiences that I have been able to know about the life together with several of my friends, in addition to many situations; my lived experiences Because I am one of those who think that if you can help someone or many, even if only with a tip or suggestion, you are doing your part to help make our world better.

And it is that everything starts from the beginning, in our home. If we receive good examples and good values, there is a very high probability that we as parents in the future, we can also transmit good examples and beautiful moral values to our children. This will translate into a future, a happy life as a couple; whether we are just boyfriends or finally as a couple. But how can we achieve this? There are certain actions that in one way or another can help us achieve it. ._ Everything starts from children If already from that tender age we began to teach and show our children, how important it is to share, respect and value our fellow human beings, then we are simply teaching them to love others. ._ In Adolescence It is at this stage that the foundations of what will be our essence and behavioral pattern for our future partners begin to be developed.

This is where we will begin to have our first courtship, be it boyfriend or girlfriend. It is here as teenagers that we should begin to experiment, share, value and depending on our level of emotional maturity, love our partner. This can be achieved if we maintain a clear, timely, sincere and effective communication with the couple. Know your tastes, your habits, favorite foods, favorite color; all those little details that together will make a big difference. ._ As Adults In this stage of our life, when we decided to seriously form a loving relationship, first with a courtship and then with a marriage; is when we must really be prepared to build day by day our relationship with that loved one we have chosen. And it is also in these moments of our life, where we must be totally convinced that Your Partner is NOT your Enemy. That being, that magical person of whom you are convinced that you want to be part of his life and that he is part of yours, has to be everything for you. Before you get married, you should be sure that you have shared all kinds of life situations with your partner. Situations of joy, pain, sadness, triumphs, failures. Before taking that important step as marriage is, you must and I recommend it with all my heart; Be sure that person has shown you that they will always give you their support when you need it. That he will be able to put his hand on your shoulder at the time of the test, whatever it may be and tell you in a calm and affectionate way; Relax, I am with you. Love must be built every day, in every moment. If you are at work or on the street and your partner is at work, call her on the phone. Only 15 seconds will be enough for that call and you do not have to give her a speech, just tell her that you love her and you want to hear her voice. That call can mean for her to cheer him up all her day, or at least her morning, that never fails.
Distances and extended separations can freeze a relationship.
As much as possible, if possible I repeat, it is recommended that your partner be from the same city or state as you. This will make it much easier to deal with the Christmas and New Year situations.
Try to communicate with your partner every day, remember that she loves you and cares for you. Let him know that you think about it every day.

Do not judge your partner a priori, so she does not either
It is always advisable at the time of a misunderstanding, give the opportunity to your partner to explain. You must by all means, dominate you however angry or angry you may be, allow your partner to explain himself. Remember that he is NOT your enemy. So when you make a mistake, he will give you the opportunity to explain what happened.

Your partner is also smart, that's why you chose her.
On certain occasions, either privately or in meetings with family or friends, he or she; they can make mistakes for example by evoking a story, making a mental calculation, naming the capital of a city or country.
As human beings we tend to want to ridicule or maximize the mistakes or mistakes of other people.
DO NOT DO IT, let alone your partner, that being that loves you and respects you. These are very difficult memories to forgive and forget, remember that your partner is NOT your enemy.

Take your time to clarify your ideas before Shouting
When for some reason you can not have an argument with your partner, in a relaxed and calm way; lock yourself in your study or room and late at night when everything is calm; Take pencil and paper. In an orderly, clear and precise way, write to your partner all those points or ideas that you wanted to express, but for some reason you could not do it.
If she really loves you, she will understand you and more importantly, she will understand you because she will remember that you are NOT her enemy.

Love deserves Details

You should not forget those little things or details that can make your partner feel loved

Every day in the morning when leaving or saying goodbye, tell him that you love him and give him a tender kiss. When you return in the afternoon, if you are in your means, bring him something, a little detail, whether it be a candy, a flower, a painted stone. Remember that it is the detail that counts and not the gift.

Your actions can hurt in Silence

I was once at the house of a friend and a friend who are married, my friend was drinking something in a glass, then her husband came over and took a drink from my friend's glass. She simply took that glass and washed it immediately, pouring herself more drink again. Imagine, if I felt bad for what my friend did, how her husband will have felt bad. He simply looked me in the eyes with a look of pain and grief that I have never been able to forget. Remember that your partner is not your enemy and also, you are supposed to be with him because you love him. When we love someone, we must be able to handle our scruples, at least a little; since we can hurt that being we love without realizing that we do it. These are just some recommendations and advice that I give you to serve as a kind of guide, to contribute to your happiness in your life as a couple..

Rinos 2019