Growing Up:
People prefer being governed, AKA being baby sat and taken of care of. Now, yes, technically, it depends on the person, but I'm speaking in generalities. So, of course, there are variations and it can be very subtle as each individual may do things a little bit more and/or a little bit less.

agreed.

Personal Independence
But government is always around us in different forms. So, I prefer self government. I want to govern myself within the realm of my own private property. When interacting with another person, I would prefer no third-parties, no middle men in trying to help us negotiate to the extent that we can.

mostly agreed. I would alter part of the sentence, so it fits better with me into: "I want to govern myself within the realm of possible space. Where my perception and possibilities lack competence I want to rely on other peoples competence and skills.

The Legal System
Now, if I want to take another person to court, then I should have the freedom to attempt to do just that. But one of my concerns is when government goes out of its way to take me to court, to jail, to fine me, to destroy me. Make government smaller and smaller and smaller, as much as possible because government is always expanding and growing bigger and bigger when good people do nothing.

I understand. I would like to have a shrinking aparatus, too. So, let's talk about it :)

Find examples where the courts are dismissing the many lawsuits that have been filed. This is the best evidence of a government that does not take the bait of the many people who think they have to go to court for every case. I see a paradox in your wish: you want to be able to go to court, but you do not want to be affected by the jurisdiction in the opposite case? I need an example.

The growth of the state is a feedback reaction. A loop that increases with the number of cases. If the vast majority of ordinary citizens do not want to settle out of court - for example, through a dispute mediator or mediation - they call on the courts. This makes the courts feel confirmed in their task and function. The fewer cases a court has to deal with, the less it has to take action. Here some judges in custody cases go over to dismissing the cases and ordering mediation. This saves court costs, which are very expensive due to the large number of cases and the personnel required.

Transfer this to police work. The more often the police are called, the more they feel confirmed in their task. The fewer people the police need, the less presence they have. And so on. The more a government feels threatened, attacked - assassinations, riots, hate media etc. - the more it will try to protect itself and increase security. A vicious circle.

If you want to rebel against an existing legal system, for example by refusing to do military service, you have no choice but to risk your skin in the game and undergo a severe test of your willpower and also personal willingness to make sacrifices with a smiling heart. This may lead you to ask yourself about your deepest motives and experience self-knowledge. Both in retreating from this concern or in realizing the concern.

If, for example, you take legal action against someone and are asked by a lawyer whether you would rather take the high amount of compensation or be satisfied with a lower compensation, but decide for the high amount, you have to ask yourself if you do not contribute to the growth of government institutions.

If you say that another country is the enemy because it is engaged in industrial espionage and you do not want to lose out in competition, you are consenting to the espionage activities of your own government and are in favour of its growth.

I see not as much separation between the people and the governmental institutions - they are mutually arising. Feeding off of themselves.