KNOWING AS OURSELVES OF OURSELVES

The greatest advantage of being a man is that they are more judged on the basis of "Who they are" and "What they do" whereas women are more judged by their "appearance." (maybe I am wrong, this is just an opinion) But the key to how attractive you are is overall judgment.

If your overall average is like your career, your physical appearance, how you hang out, your economy / finances are above standard, then you will become more attractive than others, the problem is that we never know how attractive we are in the eyes of others and interest is something that can not be judged numerically / quantitatively.

What you need to pay attention to is "The response of others to you", how they act and behave to you, whether they pay attention or they just avoid.